Repost from -06BOARD... NEED HELP PERSONAL QUESTION

My good friend who is getting married in 2 months is having a problem. Her and her FH have been arguing a lot , u know stress with the wedding, house etc. They were arguing every day and usually it was b/c of her picking at him. Her anger has really pushed him away for the last couple of weeks, so much so that he doesnt want to have SEX with her now. They haven't done anything for like 2 weeks. He says they need to take things slow because they argue to much and he just cant see sleeping with her if they are always arguing. She asked me for advice but i wanted to get the opinions and support from you girls before i go and give her this advice. She has already talked things through with him but he wants to wait until things get better between them to have sex again. I have heard that it is not uncommon for guys to feel this way when there women hurt them. Should she wait until things cool down and just take things slow?

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I don't know
I guess i cn understand to some degree
why he would not want to--he is upset about things ..

I know its stressful planning a wedding and all. DH and I argued a little bit but not too bad. In the grand scheme of things, is it really worth it to fight so much with her FI? I don't blame him for having 2nd thoughts or being leary about sex or anything else. If someone was always fighting with me I would be a bit turned off to them and sex too.

Its a wedding - just one night - I think people need to put it in prospective. Is it worth ruining her relationship with FI just to achieve her goal of what she thinks a 'perfect' wedding should be?

I guess my advice is just to chill out.

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Posted by kelleherkm
Its a wedding - just one night - I think people need to put it in prospective. Is it worth ruining her relationship with FI just to achieve her goal of what she thinks a 'perfect' wedding should be?

I guess my advice is just to chill out.

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PERFECT ADVICE. We all stress out over the wedding, but reallt it's ONE DAY ONLY ... your relationship with your FH/DH is forever and NOTHING is worth jeopardizing that. Tell her to try to think before she speaks and to put things into perspective before she melts down the next time.
The color of the napkins, the bathroom basket, the perfect do not play list, all those things don't matter in the grand scheme of things.