Repost from 09: Seating card help

tgrlily339 Posted: Oct 25, 2009 08:34 PM

Repost from 09: Seating card help

SO I am sitting doing my seating cards and I am SOOO confused! ... I have a question,

IF the couple is married do I put :

Mr and Mrs John Smith

OR

Mr and mrs John and Jane smith ???

I wasnt sure if I should put both of their first names or not

Tracey1979 Posted: Oct 25, 2009 08:39 PM

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I thought it was Mr. and Mrs. Smith, or Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, but my mother says it's Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith, or John and Jane Smith.

So, basically, 'I don't know' is the answer!

tgrlily339 Posted: Oct 25, 2009 08:42 PM

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lol we are having the SAME exact problem over here,... we are all saying different things lol but thank you!!!

geegee827 Posted: Oct 25, 2009 08:44 PM

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I had the same issue and solved it by:

Jane & John Smith (no Mr. & Mrs.)

Ladies first - there's some outdated sexist rule that you can't separate a man from his last name.

I personally hate Mr. & Mrs. John Smith (even after I get married, I will retain my own first name - not become Mrs. Joseph - sorry for the feminist rant - I'm off my soapbox now).

Also, we have so many people that are the same first and last name, it just got too darn confusing!!!

MLAngelo Posted: Oct 25, 2009 09:16 PM

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My mom, the etiquette police, did all my cards...

Mr. & Mrs. John Smith

She is like dealing with Amy Vanderbilt herself - for those of you who don't know she was the American authority of etiquette and wrote a book.

MLAngelo Posted: Oct 25, 2009 09:18 PM

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Here is an answer from an etiquette site....

The Escort cards have your guests' name on it and their table number/name. The name on the escort card should match the formality of your event......Mr. and Mrs. Bob Smith if it's formal (similar to how you addressed the invitation).....Mary and Bob Smith if it's less formal (yes, we usually put the ladies name first).

Nina1010 Posted: Oct 26, 2009 10:29 AM

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This great to know...thanks for the tip. Will notebook this for when we'r eready to do the escort cards.

AngnShaun Posted: Oct 26, 2009 10:30 AM

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If you have more than 1 mr and mrs john smith, i would put both names...

i have a few family members that have the same names... mr. & mrs. joe quinn could me 2 different couples... so i would seperate it with the wifes first name as well