Repost from BHB: Awkward invitation situation

So it seems that I will not be able to get to my guest minimum with the A-list. So I have to come up with a B-list.

Here is the situation and I need some advice:

There are some girls that are friends of my friend Nancy. I met them while hanging out with Nancy. I never really became friends with them, but I talked to them when Nancy and I hung out. Also, I haven't seen them in almost a year. But, since I need more people, I figured I would invite them.

How can I do this? I really don't have much of a relationship with them, so to just send an invitation to them would be weird. If I tell Nancy I want to invite them, that may be weird also b/c (again) I really don't have much of a relationship with them. If I say I have room at the wedding and I would like to invite them, it may be insulting.

I know they wouldn't invite me to their weddings, but I think it would be fun to have some more young women at my wedding. Also, since Nancy isn't bringing a guest and only knows a few people, I think it would be fun for her too.

How can I approach this situation?

IMHO, I don't think there is any right way to invite them. . . I understand that you want to invite them so they can come enjoy your wedding and to keep your friend company ( and to also meet your minimum ) but it is EXPENSIVE for people to attend weddings. . . so I just don't feel it is right

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Posted by Annoulak

how many of these girls are you planning to invite? How many people do you need to meet your minimum?

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Its really just 3 girls I plan to invite. I need about 15 - 20 more people (give or take a few).

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Posted by bluegreen08

I dont know if theres a good way to do it. Could you instead call people who were invited w/out guests and see if they want to bring guests?

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Everyone was given a guest

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Posted by ant n tilde

IMHO, I don't think there is any right way to invite them. . . I understand that you want to invite them so they can come enjoy your wedding and to keep your friend company ( and to also meet your minimum ) but it is EXPENSIVE for people to attend weddings. . . so I just don't feel it is right

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Understood. Its too bad that it has become expensive to attend a wedding. I really wouldn't expect a gift from them or anything.

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Posted by tlp123

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Posted by ant n tilde

IMHO, I don't think there is any right way to invite them. . . I understand that you want to invite them so they can come enjoy your wedding and to keep your friend company ( and to also meet your minimum ) but it is EXPENSIVE for people to attend weddings. . . so I just don't feel it is right

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Understood. Its too bad that it has become expensive to attend a wedding. I really wouldn't expect a gift from them or anything.

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yes but then you will have another awkward situation on your hands bc you can't tell them that you arent expecting a gift bc you cant ASSUME that you are getting a gift AND most people wouldnt come and NOT bring a gift EVEN if you did say something. . .

good luck meeting your minimum, I hope you figure something out!!

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Posted by tlp123

So it seems that I will not be able to get to my guest minimum with the A-list. So I have to come up with a B-list.

Here is the situation and I need some advice:

There are some girls that are friends of my friend Nancy. I met them while hanging out with Nancy. I never really became friends with them, but I talked to them when Nancy and I hung out. Also, I haven't seen them in almost a year. But, since I need more people, I figured I would invite them.

How can I do this? I really don't have much of a relationship with them, so to just send an invitation to them would be weird. If I tell Nancy I want to invite them, that may be weird also b/c (again) I really don't have much of a relationship with them. If I say I have room at the wedding and I would like to invite them, it may be insulting.

I know they wouldn't invite me to their weddings, but I think it would be fun to have some more young women at my wedding. Also, since Nancy isn't bringing a guest and only knows a few people, I think it would be fun for her too.

How can I approach this situation?

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skip them!! invite me instead!!!!! i give great gifts and fh and i love weddings!!

jk.. my wedding is the day before u'rs or else i might be half serious...

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Posted by iwannabmrsD

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Posted by tlp123

So it seems that I will not be able to get to my guest minimum with the A-list. So I have to come up with a B-list.

Here is the situation and I need some advice:

There are some girls that are friends of my friend Nancy. I met them while hanging out with Nancy. I never really became friends with them, but I talked to them when Nancy and I hung out. Also, I haven't seen them in almost a year. But, since I need more people, I figured I would invite them.

How can I do this? I really don't have much of a relationship with them, so to just send an invitation to them would be weird. If I tell Nancy I want to invite them, that may be weird also b/c (again) I really don't have much of a relationship with them. If I say I have room at the wedding and I would like to invite them, it may be insulting.

I know they wouldn't invite me to their weddings, but I think it would be fun to have some more young women at my wedding. Also, since Nancy isn't bringing a guest and only knows a few people, I think it would be fun for her too.

How can I approach this situation?

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skip them!! invite me instead!!!!! i give great gifts and fh and i love weddings!!

jk.. my wedding is the day before u'rs or else i might be half serious...

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Hehehe. Thats an idea, though. Inviting some people from people LIW! Would people really come? I haven't met many people on here.....

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Posted by iwannabmrsD

girl if my wedding wasn't hte day before.. I MOST CERTAINLY WOULD!!! omg i'd love it.. (and ahem. i give great wedding presents!!) grab a couple of the ladies here whom u have met.. or talked with a bit and use them for seat fillers.. why not!

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Thanks for the idea!

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Posted by iwannabmrsD

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Posted by tlp123

So it seems that I will not be able to get to my guest minimum with the A-list. So I have to come up with a B-list.

Here is the situation and I need some advice:

There are some girls that are friends of my friend Nancy. I met them while hanging out with Nancy. I never really became friends with them, but I talked to them when Nancy and I hung out. Also, I haven't seen them in almost a year. But, since I need more people, I figured I would invite them.

How can I do this? I really don't have much of a relationship with them, so to just send an invitation to them would be weird. If I tell Nancy I want to invite them, that may be weird also b/c (again) I really don't have much of a relationship with them. If I say I have room at the wedding and I would like to invite them, it may be insulting.

I know they wouldn't invite me to their weddings, but I think it would be fun to have some more young women at my wedding. Also, since Nancy isn't bringing a guest and only knows a few people, I think it would be fun for her too.

How can I approach this situation?

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skip them!! invite me instead!!!!! i give great gifts and fh and i love weddings!!

jk.. my wedding is the day before u'rs or else i might be half serious...

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LOL...I was thinking the same thing...LOL...

In seriousness...that is a tough one...I think I agree with Tilde here...there really isn't any good way to invite them...sorry...

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Posted by katleigh3

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Posted by iwannabmrsD

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skip them!! invite me instead!!!!! i give great gifts and fh and i love weddings!!

jk.. my wedding is the day before u'rs or else i might be half serious...

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LOL...I was thinking the same thing...LOL...

In seriousness...that is a tough one...I think I agree with Tilde here...there really isn't any good way to invite them...sorry...

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We are getting married at the same place You can come to my wedding if I can come to yours......