Repost from BHB Issue w/ a member FFIL...
Is a long but I need outside opinion.
I need help, I had this problem w/ the cousin of FH a couple of weeks after we got engaged.
At the begining of the engagment FH and I thought of having a very small wedding (town + restaurant) w/ only parents and brothers and sisters. One afternoon I got to his house and my FMIL and FSIL was there (she got married a year a go) and when they ask what we had thought of doing I explain, while this happen FH little sister arrive and start to hear the conversation and start complaining that that means that she cant even bring a date and that a lot of people are going to feel ofended b/c that is not fair blablabla.... as she start blabling I went outside w/ my other FSIL and she went out and told me that she knows that FH is only doing it like that b/c I told him too (in other way that i was manipulating him) at all this I decide to leave and I cry b/c I felt so offended so I called FH he got mad and talt to his little sister. Well aparently everything was ok so I went to FH house to watch a movie (in that time he lived w/ his mom and little sister) well we weren't in his room not even for 5 min when one of his cousin arrive to the house scream and knocking on his door that why she wasn't invited to the wedding and that not let me manipulate him and a lot of other things that I can't post including the F word in between. apparently FH's little sister had called her and tell her about the early conversation (she liked to gossip ALOT) and that is how she found out. FH told everyone off (is the only time that I had seen him mad). The next day the little sister apologize but the cousin in all this time haven't even say sorry. I really don't feel like invinting her to the wedding b/c of the way she react I am right on not inviting her or not.
Please opinion
And sorry for the long vent.
I need help, I had this problem w/ the cousin of FH a couple of weeks after we got engaged.
At the begining of the engagment FH and I thought of having a very small wedding (town + restaurant) w/ only parents and brothers and sisters. One afternoon I got to his house and my FMIL and FSIL was there (she got married a year a go) and when they ask what we had thought of doing I explain, while this happen FH little sister arrive and start to hear the conversation and start complaining that that means that she cant even bring a date and that a lot of people are going to feel ofended b/c that is not fair blablabla.... as she start blabling I went outside w/ my other FSIL and she went out and told me that she knows that FH is only doing it like that b/c I told him too (in other way that i was manipulating him) at all this I decide to leave and I cry b/c I felt so offended so I called FH he got mad and talt to his little sister. Well aparently everything was ok so I went to FH house to watch a movie (in that time he lived w/ his mom and little sister) well we weren't in his room not even for 5 min when one of his cousin arrive to the house scream and knocking on his door that why she wasn't invited to the wedding and that not let me manipulate him and a lot of other things that I can't post including the F word in between. apparently FH's little sister had called her and tell her about the early conversation (she liked to gossip ALOT) and that is how she found out. FH told everyone off (is the only time that I had seen him mad). The next day the little sister apologize but the cousin in all this time haven't even say sorry. I really don't feel like invinting her to the wedding b/c of the way she react I am right on not inviting her or not.
Please opinion
And sorry for the long vent.
