Role of BRIDESMAIDS / MOH ???

Typically, what are the roles of bridesmaids and maid of honors?

What can a bride ask them to do? What should they offer to do? Are they supposed to help you with your wedding planning, like looking up price quotes and stuff like that? Or are their roles more towards support?

I know they go with you to try on gowns and stuff like that, and throw you a bridal shower & bachelorette party, is that it?

Many of my BMs lived out of state. Out of my BM, only my SIL came with me to find my dress and go for fittings. Two of my BMs and MOH helped with the BM dress shopping. One of my BM helped with the STDs. My BMs did some work on my shower but my Mom paid for most of it. They also threw my bachlorette party.

So, they paid for:
BM dress
hair
small portion of shower
split dinner cost at bachlorette party and brought gifts/games

What does STD stand for?

(Sorry, I'm a newbie)

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Posted by August28

What does STD stand for?

(Sorry, I'm a newbie)

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Save the date

My MOH had me post these on her website

Maid of Honor

Helps organize the bridesmaids on the wedding day.
Keeps the groom's ring until the appropriate time in the ceremony, when she exchanges it for the bride's bouquet.
Assists the bride in dressing before the ceremony, and at the reception before the bride leaves.
Signs the wedding certificate as a legal witness.
Assists the bride with the train and veil at the altar.
Is a member of the receiving line, and is seated in a place of honor at the reception.
Keeps the bride on schedule.
With bridesmaids, has a shower for the bride.
Follows bridesmaids and precedes ring and broom bearers and flower girls in the processional.
Is escorted out by the best man, to his right, immediately following flower girls in the recessional.
Dances with the best man during the bridal party dance.
Attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner party.

Bridesmaids

Assist with the pre-wedding errands and tasks.
With maid of honor, have a shower for the bride.
Attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner party.
Dance with groomsman during bridal party dance.
Participate in the processional in order of height.
Are escorted out by groomsmen to their right immediately following maid of honor and best man.
Encourage single women to participate in the bouquet toss.

Thanks!

Past brides... need your comments please.

I have 3 separate receptions to coordinate (3 different countries), and my fiance is basically a dud (busy with work) when it comes to these things. So, I'm basically a one-(wo)man show. I really need the help but don't want to seem pushy or force my BMs to do work. But, if it is a tradition, then I wouldn't feel bad giving them instructions to help out.

'Assist with the pre-wedding errands and tasks.'

What kinds of tasks does that include?

You will actually get some different responses to this question. Some brides don't expect much from their BM and will even pay for their BM dresses and just expect them to show up the day of the wedding. Here's what I expect/ed from my girls.
• come shopping for BM dresses- they did and I even let them pick out the dress
• pay for the dresses- waiting for my second half of payment from 3 out of 6 of them
• pay for their shoes (didn't even specify what kind)- I'm not even sure if they all have them yet
• hair and makeup are optional- a couple are having updos, some of them are just wearing their hair down
• help plan/pay for shower- they didn't do so good with this part, 3 of them put in significantly less than they had agreed to and didn't help much with the planning
• help plan/pay for bachelorette party- the same 3 girls did a kicka$$ job of planning a weekend away in Newport
help wrap favors- yet to happen even though I've been doing them by myself
lend general support- this part has been hot and cold

All I can say is, choose wisely and hope for the best!