RP '07: VENT: If you get info from a board, get it right!

Original post by MJDoc12

Jan 22, 2006 09:01 PM

Okay, so a new bride posted a Q on the '07 boards, about how to negotiate with a hall. I responded to this by stating halls love cash, and how you can sometimes get extras thrown in, etc. and I also commented about how paying all in cash can help sometimes with things like tax. (Yes I know it's illegal NOT to charge tax, as some brides stated, but let's be realistic...some smaller halls will magically reduce some of the tax when you pay cash...it DOES happen ocasionally.)

Well anyway--my problem is this: I don't know who did it, whether it was the original poster of this thread, or someone who read it--visited my hall, and proceeded to tell the BM there that I had stated that I got a break on tax there because I paid cash, and then proceeded to use my first name and wedding date from my profile--as if they know me personally or something--saying that they saw me post on a website that i got the tax comped or something!! If you read the post (i bumped it over there), i NEVER EVER said that MY HALL did this...i said in GENERAL it can happen.

On Saturday night, I get a phone call from my BM asking me if I was going around telling people this, and if I did it was not good information to be spreading. Of course I had to explain the situation...but it really ticked me off that someone used my info to try and get a deal like that.

So whoever did this--please get your facts straight before you start using other people's comments and information!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jennie0898 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 03:43 PM

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Posted by amstellitelady
i was posting an opinion that may be she should have done it in a different way possibly by Forum Mail thats all.

While I think what Melissa said was harmless and rather true. (as we all know not just with wedding vendors but in general businesses are willing to do things for people who deal strictly in cash) I agree for her own sake she should have probably FM'd that bit of insight.

Did she think what she said was going to come back and haunt her? No.

Should she be able to say something and not have to worry that it's held against her? Yes.

But unfortunately, this is the real world and more unfortunately, there are people out here who will use any info they can to get what they want. Even if that means that they twist the words of what one person says. So lesson learned... Watch what you say and how much personal info you put up on here...

Melissa... You know I'm saying this from the heart. Not to be a biitch...although you know I am already!!

Jennie0898 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 03:46 PM

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Posted by SummerBride06

Posted by Jennie0898

I'm really not surprised that this happened to you. I've heard of people doing this to brides that have the 'their' date booked at a hall or some other vendor they wanted and call that vendor to tell them the wedding was cancelled so that they could 'steal' the vendor. Very sad but drama does lurke on these boards.

as someone who has cancelled one of my own vendors, it's not as simple as just calling and saying it's off. you have to write an official, return receipt letter stating all your information and clearly stating you are cancelling the contract. you can't just say you're 'summerbride' and cancel a vendor. it was a big process

I have cancelled a vendor and yes you're right, most of the time you have to send a certified letter cancelling the contract but there have been brides who've posted here saying their vendor called b/c they got a message saying they were cancelling. Thankfully the vendor followed up otherwise it could have been a disaster for the unknowing bride.

amstellitelady Posted: Jan 23, 2006 03:58 PM

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Posted by Jennie0898

Posted by amstellitelady
i was posting an opinion that may be she should have done it in a different way possibly by Forum Mail thats all.

While I think what Melissa said was harmless and rather true. (as we all know not just with wedding vendors but in general businesses are willing to do things for people who deal strictly in cash) I agree for her own sake she should have probably FM'd that bit of insight.

Did she think what she said was going to come back and haunt her? No.

Should she be able to say something and not have to worry that it's held against her? Yes.

But unfortunately, this is the real world and more unfortunately, there are people out here who will use any info they can to get what they want. Even if that means that they twist the words of what one person says. So lesson learned... Watch what you say and how much personal info you put up on here...

Melissa... You know I'm saying this from the heart. Not to be a biitch...although you know I am already!!

this is what i meant. i didn't mean for my post to sound like it was her fault. it wasn't at all. thank you for posting this.

sarahthegreat Posted: Jan 23, 2006 04:03 PM

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i think the problem is that anything you post on here can be used against you. i think what this bride did was wrong, in saying she ws told she'd get a break in tax if she paid cash, etc., but we have to remember that there are people that will take everything to heart and run to their vendors to get their contracts changed b/c of what they read on here.

i try not to post what i paid for what b/c i don't need my vendors calling me and asking me why i 'quoted' someone on liw a price...so although it was not intentional and it was never specifically said that you will get a break, etc., its just that some newer brides will get confused. believe me, i was one of them. i thought we had to have the whole payment when we booked and i thought there were only 5 reception halls on LI.

just keep this in mind next time you want to post prices and what have you

Jennie0898 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 04:09 PM

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Posted by smm2675

i think the problem is that anything you post on here can be used against you. i think what this bride did was wrong, in saying she ws told she'd get a break in tax if she paid cash, etc., but we have to remember that there are people that will take everything to heart and run to their vendors to get their contracts changed b/c of what they read on here.

i try not to post what i paid for what b/c i don't need my vendors calling me and asking me why i 'quoted' someone on liw a price...so although it was not intentional and it was never specifically said that you will get a break, etc., its just that some newer brides will get confused. believe me, i was one of them. i thought we had to have the whole payment when we booked and i thought there were only 5 reception halls on LI.

just keep this in mind next time you want to post prices and what have you

The irony is that she didn't post any prices...

Jennie0898 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 04:09 PM

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Posted by amstellitelady

this is what i meant. i didn't mean for my post to sound like it was her fault. it wasn't at all. thank you for posting this.

No problem...

MJDoc12 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 04:10 PM

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feelings are STRONG on this board!!!

let us all call a truce on this subject...amstelllite FM'd me and we are not gonna throw down on this subject or anything. lol

bottomline--I shall be weary of what i say on here, and i have cleared my profile....and will probably clear my posts of any info concering my wedding location. that's it! keep it simple!!

is it totally sad & pathetic that i have to do this? ABSOLUTELY!! am i sending out karmic waves of gonorrhea & syphillis to the chick that used my info? YOU BETCHA!!

p.s.--Jenn...you are my fav b*tch in the world....ya know I love ya!!

Jennie0898 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 04:13 PM

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Posted by MJDoc12

feelings are STRONG on this board!!!

let us all call a truce on this subject...amstelllite FM'd me and we are not gonna throw down on this subject or anything. lol

bottomline--I shall be weary of what i say on here, and i have cleared my profile....and will probably clear my posts of any info concering my wedding location. that's it! keep it simple!!

is it totally sad & pathetic that i have to do this? ABSOLUTELY!! am i sending out karmic waves of gonorrhea & syphillis to the chick that used my info? YOU BETCHA!!

p.s.--Jenn...you are my fav b*tch in the world....ya know I love ya!!

AMEN!!!

And I love you too my little ghetto rat!!

sarahthegreat Posted: Jan 23, 2006 04:14 PM

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Posted by Jennie0898

Posted by smm2675

i think the problem is that anything you post on here can be used against you. i think what this bride did was wrong, in saying she ws told she'd get a break in tax if she paid cash, etc., but we have to remember that there are people that will take everything to heart and run to their vendors to get their contracts changed b/c of what they read on here.

i try not to post what i paid for what b/c i don't need my vendors calling me and asking me why i 'quoted' someone on liw a price...so although it was not intentional and it was never specifically said that you will get a break, etc., its just that some newer brides will get confused. believe me, i was one of them. i thought we had to have the whole payment when we booked and i thought there were only 5 reception halls on LI.

just keep this in mind next time you want to post prices and what have you

The irony is that she didn't post any prices...

so whoever did this, just ran to Watermill and said 'so and so told me that you will take the tax off if i pay cash?' thats messed up....

Meaghan729 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 04:15 PM

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am i sending out karmic waves of gonorrhea & syphillis to the chick that used my info? YOU BETCHA!!

Swan06 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 04:23 PM

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That's horrible!

BJandDan Posted: Jan 23, 2006 04:28 PM

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Posted by Swan06

That's horrible!

No, after what the other person did, I see it as totally justifiable!!!

Meaghan729 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 04:34 PM

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Posted by Swan06

That's horrible!

I think thats nice of her to only wish cureable diseases on this tasteless girl.

Nina Posted: Jan 23, 2006 04:36 PM

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Posted by Meaghan729

Posted by Swan06

That's horrible!

I think thats nice of her to only wish cureable diseases on this tasteless girl.

Thats hilarious Meaghan....
so long as she wishes cureable ones its justifiable, right? Good one Sweetie

Meaghan729 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 04:39 PM

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Posted by Nina

Posted by Meaghan729

Posted by Swan06

That's horrible!

I think thats nice of her to only wish cureable diseases on this tasteless girl.

Thats hilarious Meaghan....
so long as she wishes cureable ones its justifiable, right? Good one Sweetie