I know that the breaking of the glass is something thats traditionally done at the end of the jewish wedding ceremony, but is this something that a rabbi requires to be done?
I understand that the breaking has meaning to some brides, but to me, it has none. Basically it's not something that I would do if I could have my 'perfect' wedding. Do you think that I should just do it for traditions sake or do you think I should only do things that I really 'feel'? I'm so confused on this issue
DavaDay
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It's just a tradition, not a religious necessity. In fact, having a rabbi at all isn't a religious necessity, if you 'go by the book.' You just need the bride, groom, and your witnesses to sign the ketubah, and you're married. The seven blessings, kiddush, breaking of the glass, etc. are all just customs. More traditional rabbis might insist on them being there, but I don't see why, from a 'legal' (Jewish-wise) standpoint.
yswedding
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It may be something thats more important to your family that you.
Talk to your parents and his...
My mom takes this glass breaking very seriously. Its some kind of family old wives tale, that the way the glass breaks will be the wa your marriage will be.
Its silly, it takes 1 minute, and if it means so much to them, why not.
soontoobemrsk
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I honestly feel like breaking of the glass is almost symbolically negative, although I know that its tradition. idk, just the way I feel. The only way to really know for sure is to talk to my rabbi. Thanks for the responses!
roan126
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If you dont want to do it, then don't. I did it because I like the tradition, but I dont think the rabbi would have cared if we didnt.
sophisticat13
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My FH is Jewish and there is a historical meaning behind the breaking of the glass...we are having an interfaith ceremony and he is doing it for that reason. I will look it up when I get home and post it if anyone is interested...but if you don't want to include it, then I wouldn't. It's your day!!!!
bigrd37
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I am Jewish and Catholic and FH is Catholic, but I like the tradition and since we are having mostly a civil ceremony I wanted to something with a little tradition behind it. FH doesn't mind it, so he will break the glass. But it's totally up to you if you want to do it or not.
MikeandJess
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you can do the breaking of the glass with any officiant but it's certainly not something that must be done. If you feel that it's not important to you then don't do it, it's your wedding
SusiBtoM
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My husband is Jewish and I am Lutheran, and it was my husband's wish that he break the glass at the end of the ceremony. I had absolutely no problem with it.
The breaking of the glass has a few meaning : - It reminds of the destruction of the Holy Temple. - The breaking of the glass also is a warning of the frailty of a marriage. That sometimes a single thoughtless act, breech of trust, or infidelity can damage a marriage in ways that are very difficult to undo - just as it would be so difficult to undo the breaking of this glass. Knowing that this marriage is permanent, the bride and groom should strive to show each other the love and respect befitting their spouse and love of their life.
There is also a third meaning, somewhat humerous : - The stamping of the foot onto the glass to break it is viewed as the last time the husband will put his foot down in the marriage.
It is a lovely tradition that I as a Lutheran embraced, together with having a chuppah.
Almostawife
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I am having an interfaith minister marry us and we are not doing anything religious. we are going to break the glass for tradition and fun. I don't see it as a religious I look at it as festive at the end of the ceremony he breaks the glass everyone yells Mazel Tov and we are married. Sort of like the big bang.
