Rp from '07: Filipino Brides

My FH is Filipino, I want to encorporate some of the traditional customs into our ceremony/reception. Problem is he knows NOTHING about them, and refuses to really find out. I know that during the ceremony there are the ropes and the coins, etc. Can someone explain to me what I need to do and where to get these things. Also, are you having sponsors?? thanks!

I am Filipino. I was raised here and as a concession to my parents, we have incorporated the coins in our ceremony--it is called arras. It is supposed to be for good fortune. The priest blesses it and then hands it over to the groom, who in turn hands it to you. My parents have told me that during this, you should try not to shake it too much so that the coins make noise. Mine are silver coins in a silver basket that my aunt bought for us when she went on vacation. You can buy them on-line too

http://www.weddingarras.com/

There is also a veil and cord ceremony that we are not doing. This all signifies your union together--two people becoming one.

We are not having sponsors either. I find the tradition to be too antiquated and they really serve no purpose. In the Philippines, their role was originally to serve as witness to the union.

I hope this helps. If you need any more help, let me know!

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Posted by rkl1130

I am Filipino. I was raised here and as a concession to my parents, we have incorporated the coins in our ceremony--it is called arras. It is supposed to be for good fortune. The priest blesses it and then hands it over to the groom, who in turn hands it to you. My parents have told me that during this, you should try not to shake it too much so that the coins make noise. Mine are silver coins in a silver basket that my aunt bought for us when she went on vacation. You can buy them on-line too

http://www.weddingarras.com/

There is also a veil and cord ceremony that we are not doing. This all signifies your union together--two people becoming one.

We are not having sponsors either. I find the tradition to be too antiquated and they really serve no purpose. In the Philippines, their role was originally to serve as witness to the union.

I hope this helps. If you need any more help, let me know!

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We do this in Spain as well, and I was thinking of incorpoprating this to my wedding. I'm trying to find what the minister would say for the blessing, since this is something he has never done. ANy suggestions of where you might find the prayers?

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Posted by FullersBride

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Posted by rkl1130

I am Filipino. I was raised here and as a concession to my parents, we have incorporated the coins in our ceremony--it is called arras. It is supposed to be for good fortune. The priest blesses it and then hands it over to the groom, who in turn hands it to you. My parents have told me that during this, you should try not to shake it too much so that the coins make noise. Mine are silver coins in a silver basket that my aunt bought for us when she went on vacation. You can buy them on-line too

http://www.weddingarras.com/

There is also a veil and cord ceremony that we are not doing. This all signifies your union together--two people becoming one.

We are not having sponsors either. I find the tradition to be too antiquated and they really serve no purpose. In the Philippines, their role was originally to serve as witness to the union.

I hope this helps. If you need any more help, let me know!

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We do this in Spain as well, and I was thinking of incorpoprating this to my wedding. I'm trying to find what the minister would say for the blessing, since this is something he has never done. ANy suggestions of where you might find the prayers?

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I found the following blessing of the arras from a real wedding...

Father Coughlin: Anton Lesaca will present the pillow with the coins. May God bless these coins/ arras as a sign of mutual support and responsibility. R. Amen

Matthew lets the coins fall into the hands of Ghen. Matthew: I give you these coins as a pledge of my dedication to you, the care of our home, and the welfare of our children.

Ghen: I accept them and in the same way pledge my dedication to you, the care of our home, and the welfare of our children.

I'm not quite sure what is to be said either. I was thinking of talking to a Spanish or Filipino priest to ask him about it.

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Posted by rkl1130

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Posted by FullersBride

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Posted by rkl1130

I am Filipino. I was raised here and as a concession to my parents, we have incorporated the coins in our ceremony--it is called arras. It is supposed to be for good fortune. The priest blesses it and then hands it over to the groom, who in turn hands it to you. My parents have told me that during this, you should try not to shake it too much so that the coins make noise. Mine are silver coins in a silver basket that my aunt bought for us when she went on vacation. You can buy them on-line too

http://www.weddingarras.com/

There is also a veil and cord ceremony that we are not doing. This all signifies your union together--two people becoming one.

We are not having sponsors either. I find the tradition to be too antiquated and they really serve no purpose. In the Philippines, their role was originally to serve as witness to the union.

I hope this helps. If you need any more help, let me know!

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We do this in Spain as well, and I was thinking of incorpoprating this to my wedding. I'm trying to find what the minister would say for the blessing, since this is something he has never done. ANy suggestions of where you might find the prayers?

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I found the following blessing of the arras from a real wedding...

Father Coughlin: Anton Lesaca will present the pillow with the coins. May God bless these coins/ arras as a sign of mutual support and responsibility. R. Amen

Matthew lets the coins fall into the hands of Ghen. Matthew: I give you these coins as a pledge of my dedication to you, the care of our home, and the welfare of our children.

Ghen: I accept them and in the same way pledge my dedication to you, the care of our home, and the welfare of our children.

I'm not quite sure what is to be said either. I was thinking of talking to a Spanish or Filipino priest to ask him about it.

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Doyou know what part of the ceremony this is usually done?

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Posted by lugosi555

I am so happy that I have someone I can ask questions to. My fiancee is Filipino and I'm not so I have tons of questions. His mother wanted us to incorporate some element of their traditions in our wedding and I am not sure which one to do. We opted to have two sponsors to please her but she wants more. I'm not too comfortable with that so she let it go. She's bugging me a bit about the cord and stuff though.

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I hear ya! It can be quite tricky.

Thankfully my parents don't want to do sponsors since I don't see a point in it and I am uncomfortable with it too.

The coins and cord and veil might a nice thing to incorporate though--it doesn't take long and it's all symbolic of the union and the joining of families and the protection of the new couple. It's all in the same vein as the unity candle.

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Posted by FullersBride

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Posted by rkl1130

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Posted by FullersBride

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Posted by rkl1130

I am Filipino. I was raised here and as a concession to my parents, we have incorporated the coins in our ceremony--it is called arras. It is supposed to be for good fortune. The priest blesses it and then hands it over to the groom, who in turn hands it to you. My parents have told me that during this, you should try not to shake it too much so that the coins make noise. Mine are silver coins in a silver basket that my aunt bought for us when she went on vacation. You can buy them on-line too

http://www.weddingarras.com/

There is also a veil and cord ceremony that we are not doing. This all signifies your union together--two people becoming one.

We are not having sponsors either. I find the tradition to be too antiquated and they really serve no purpose. In the Philippines, their role was originally to serve as witness to the union.

I hope this helps. If you need any more help, let me know!

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We do this in Spain as well, and I was thinking of incorpoprating this to my wedding. I'm trying to find what the minister would say for the blessing, since this is something he has never done. ANy suggestions of where you might find the prayers?

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I found the following blessing of the arras from a real wedding...

Father Coughlin: Anton Lesaca will present the pillow with the coins. May God bless these coins/ arras as a sign of mutual support and responsibility. R. Amen

Matthew lets the coins fall into the hands of Ghen. Matthew: I give you these coins as a pledge of my dedication to you, the care of our home, and the welfare of our children.

Ghen: I accept them and in the same way pledge my dedication to you, the care of our home, and the welfare of our children.

I'm not quite sure what is to be said either. I was thinking of talking to a Spanish or Filipino priest to ask him about it.

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Doyou know what part of the ceremony this is usually done?

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Everything I've seen has it done after the rings...

i'm filipino and incorporating the traditions in my ceremony

my family actually went to the Phillippines and got all the stuff

here is a website where you can buy some stuff

http://www.mybarong.com/fil.html


Filipino Weddings reflect the strong traditions of family (& extended family) and symbolism. Thus, Filipino wedding ceremonies typically involve many people, and the wedding rituals typically 'speak' to the couple personally.

Beyond the usual bridal party, the Filipino wedding involves people who are also significant in the couple's life: the Principal Sponsors and the Secondary Sponsors.

The Principal Sponsors (aka Ninang and Ninong): These are women and men whom the bride and groom respect & admire. They are, as in the early days of the Church, sponsors of the couple attesting to their readiness for marriage and freedom to marry. These are often aunts and uncles or close friends of the family. In the Philippines, they are the official witnesses of the state and they sign the marriage license. Worldwide, their participation is symbolic of the wisdom & support they shall offer the new couple. The number of sponsors can vary from a single couple to many couples. The Principal sponsors are part of the bridal procession. At the nuptial blessing, they may also be invited to come up with the celebrant and to extend their right hands to join in the prayer of blessing. In doing so, they are fulfilling their roles as sponsors.

The Secondary Sponsors: These are women and men whom the couple chooses to involve in their ceremony because of their affinity or friendship with them. They are typically relatives or close friends.

There are four sets of Secondary Sponsors:


The Coin Sponsors - those who will present the Wedding Coins / Arras. Often, they will also provide the Wedding Coins.
Alternately, the coins may be brought to the altar by a coin bearer who is a child (relative or friend).

The Wedding Coins (also known as: Arras [ah-rahs] or Arrhae [ar-rah-heh]) have traditionally symbolized the prosperity that would be shared by the new couple, and the groom's promise to provide for the welfare of the new family.
*However, today's couples embrace life & face the world together in a more mutually supportive way than ever before. So, the Wedding Coins have come to symbolize the couple's commitment to mutually contributing to their relationship, their children, and their community.
The Unity Coins are a contemporary version of the traditional wedding coins, known as Arras in the Philippines & Spain, that are used throughout the world in numerous cultures (Arabic, Filipino, Greek, Indian, Irish, Latin American, Sicilian, Spanish, Swedish, & others) & religions (Catholic, Eastern Orthodox, Jewish, Muslim, & others).

The Wedding Coins have come to symbolize more than just prosperity. Today's couples embrace life & face the world together in a more mutually supportive way than ever before. Each coin in our 'Unity Coins' set has a unique design, representing one of thirteen universal tenets of marriage:

~:~ Love ~:~ Trust ~:~ Commitment ~:~ Respect ~:~ Joy ~:~ Happiness ~:~ Harmony ~:~ Wisdom ~:~ Wholeness ~:~ Nurturing ~:~ Caring ~:~ Cooperation ~:~ Peace ~:~
Prayers for: Wedding Coins

The Veil Sponsors - those who will place a white veil over the shoulders of the couple.
The Couple's Veil (white) has come to be a symbol of purity. Its original meaning was the symbol of the presence of the Lord, as the cloud was a symbol of His presence. It is placed over the shoulders of the couple to symbolize their union and being 'clothed as one' in unity.
Prayers for: Couple's Veil & Cord

The Cord Sponsors - those who will place a knotted cord over the heads of the couple, to lay on their shoulders.
The Cord is a symbol of the couple's bond; that indeed they are no longer two but one in their new life as a couple.
Prayers for: Couple's Veil & Cord

The Candle Sponsors - those who will light the candles on the altar.
The candles symbolize the Light of Christ, the same light they received at Baptism and now receive again to lead them in their new life as a couple. Some couples choose to have their mothers or fathers light the candles in this ritual.
Prayers for: Candles