so im a BM for a 'friend's'wedding in 3 1/2 weeks....my BF who is also a BM just called me spazzing out b/c she just found out our 'friend' got married in church today and didnt invite either of us!!!how do you not invite your 2 BM's but your other ones??we are pissed....this isnt the only problem we have had, the girl NEVER calls us anymore but calls the other BM's, my great grandmother passed away a month ago and she didnt call expressing her sympathies...she didnt let us try on our dresses to see what they looked like before we bought them, she said of 2 of the other BM's who felt a little heavy in the dresses she doesnt care they will just have to lose weight, she wants us to spend 200 on hair and makeup and we HAVE to use her person...i am so fed up im ready to drop out...like how dont u invite us??what do i do???
Want to know what I would do? She invites the other BM's but not the two of you? I say the two of you just drop out. It is obvious that she could care less about you and how you feel. Let's see how she likes it. Is this a person worthy of your friendship? It dosen't sound like it to me. Drop out of the party and out of her life! Good luck!
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Want to know what I would do? She invites the other BM's but not the two of you? I say the two of you just drop out. It is obvious that she could care less about you and how you feel. Let's see how she likes it. Is this a person worthy of your friendship? It dosen't sound like it to me. Drop out of the party and out of her life! Good luck!
I agree... Please update us!!! Good luck!1
Shellycakes123
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im confused...ishe already got married? why wasnt the BP there? very confused!!!!
Soon2BeMrsD
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im confused...ishe already got married? why wasnt the BP there? very confused!!!!
yes shes already married with child, she got married by justice of peace about 1 year+ ago, she got married today to be recognized my church then in couple weeks is getting married again at her RH...she wanted to have a big wedding even tho she is already married...you dont know how bad i want to drop out of it but i feel bad grrr im too gullable i hate it
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oh man! i agree......get married and not have her BM there?! Thats balls!!! id never do that. Can you call her and see why she has a stick up her butt? she may have a reason for it..but honestly if it was me.....id play it off and not show at her wedding! or bail out right b4 the RD! 200$ on hair and make up is nuts.....no way can you ask ppl to do that!!!
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oh man! i agree......get married and not have her BM there?! Thats balls!!! id never do that. Can you call her and see why she has a stick up her butt? she may have a reason for it..but honestly if it was me.....id play it off and not show at her wedding! or bail out right b4 the RD! 200$ on hair and make up is nuts.....no way can you ask ppl to do that!!!
i also just found out the RD from another BM she didnt even let me know yet and its at 5pm on a wednesday so i cant even go b/c i dont get out of work until 530...im just soooo confused shes being sooo different
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i would drop out, why is she getting married 3 times, seems a little weird to me. if you werent invited why are you a BM? i would call her one it? anyone can go to the church! expecially a BM or a friend.
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that is so wrong. i told my girls that they didn't have to get the make up done but i wouldlike there hair done. the girls got the h air done 2 girls a lso got there make up done and moh did her own make up.
hope it getts better
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well she isn't making any attempts to include you in anything....so if your gullable side just won't let you drop out....leave it up to one last phone call...call her...see her reasons...if it's something that makes you feel like you are still important to her, then don't....if it's something and she just uhh's and doesn't really give you an answer worth your time...then drop out...the people standing up there are supposed to be the most important, and she hasn't demonstrated anything yet to make you feel like you should spend a buttload of money to be up there
