last night i got home to my very welcomed rsvp envelopes. there were three. the first one... accept; the second... accept; the third.................... i see my uncle's handwriting, and for a moment i get REALLY EXCITED, i then see that he marked... decline
i IMMEDITATELY broke down and cried. i mean CRIED, i broke down!
this man helped raise me. he's like a second father to me. my son's middle name is after him. he won't be at my wedding.
i've been crying since. i don't know what to do, i'm so heartbroken
DestinationWed07
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Did you ask him why?
LandsEnd06
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I would call him. Maybe there is something going on that you aren't aware of. I am sorry.
tuti0907
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I'm so sorry.
I'm assuming because he's such an important person in your life that he MUST have a good reason. Why don't you call him and see what it is.
libby2595
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ladies, thank you for replying.
i'm thinking of waiting until i'm not a mess to call him. i don't want to sound like a 'crazy emotional bride' when i call, because i want to be understanding to whatever he might say
I'm so sorry. I know how dissapointment hurts. Yes, it's a good idea to wait until you are not a mess. Also, maybe rehearse some things to say before you call him. I know if I do that b4 I speak to someone there is less chance of a breakdown.
eden
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sorry to hear that, i can imagine how that feels :( definitely find out what's going on, if you're too distraught to call him, then call someone like your parents who may know why he's not coming.
susdoug
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I agree...call him. Where does he live...maybe he can't afford to travel?
rachel212
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Definitely call him. You're just going to torture yourself until you do. I'm so sorry.
drpepper318
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That's terrible. I'm sorry to hear that. Call him or ask another relative, however you do it find out the reason asap, maybe something can be done about it.
hayleyandsteve
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I'm sorry to hear that! Definitely call and find out why... maybe there's a way you can help him so that he'll be able to attend...
AllJoy
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I'm so sorry! Does he live far away?
kitty1224
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call and speak to him. See why he declined.
sarahthegreat
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i am the minority here, but i say let it be. don't call him. its tough to get those 'nos' i know, but people have their reasons.
kitty1224
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I have not sent out any invites, but I want everyone there, so I would be devastated if they did not come. There are some thing we have to learn to except even if it hurt. Stay strong and were here for you.
luvabul
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call him even if ur a mess and crying, so atleast he knows how much he means to u !!!
DUCKS2001
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OH NO DO YOU KNOW WHY ? MAYBE YOU SHUOLD HAVE SOMEONE CALL HIM I AM SO SORRY
Mandyin2007
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I am sorry he declined, but maybe he has a reason.
betani
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i'm sure he has a reason, but i'm sorry you have to deal with this. maybe you can include in in other ways (ie, helping out, going to the rehersal dinner) if he can't come b/c of a conflict or something like that.
