RSVP's

jenn4214ever Posted: Oct 03, 2009 11:19 AM

RSVP's

I only got like 3 RSVP's so far that were a no. I was under the assumption that whenever someone said no on a RSVP that they send a check along with it? I'm just asking this because I have not received any checks and all along I thought it was common curtsey. I'm just curious..... LOL.

whtevjenny Posted: Oct 03, 2009 11:20 AM

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hey look on BHB board, someone was asking about this today! I think it depends on the person! I did not get checks with the 'no's'

jenn4214ever Posted: Oct 03, 2009 11:28 AM

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Whoa that is weird.. great minds think alike, haha. Yea I guess this is a problem that alot of girls have, not just me.

coldasice217 Posted: Oct 03, 2009 11:44 AM

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Etiquette dictates that if you are invited to a wedding and decline, you are still supposed to send a gift.

But most people don't have class, tact, or manners, so.....of my 30 nos thus far, I only received one check from one couple I just think people don't know manners from their elbow anymore, so I honestly was not expecting any gifts from no responses, so whatever I do get I'm counting as a bonus.

geegee827 Posted: Oct 03, 2009 12:03 PM

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I've received some gifts from people who RSVPd no. Right now, it's probably running about 50-50.

I have to say though usually if I don't go to a wedding, I don't send a monetary gift. I usually send a gift off the registry. I've gotten some of those too.

I feel like if I get a gift from the no's that's great - if not , that's ok too.

jenturch Posted: Oct 03, 2009 12:45 PM

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I've gotten some checks with the no responses. Some also sent seperate cards with checks after they sent the response back. Others have told us that they are buying us a gift off the registry since they can't come to the wedding-mostly the out of state people.

gina409 Posted: Oct 03, 2009 02:36 PM

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i got a bunch of no's and only 2 checks..but i was happy with the 2..i didnt even know people did that'

guess it depends on the person

sophisticat13 Posted: Oct 03, 2009 03:29 PM

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I agree that the proper etiquette says that if you decline a wedding invite, you should send a gift. We did receive some, but not a lot...including FH's cousins...! Many ppl just don't follow the proper etiquette any more Like someone else said...consider it a bonus if you do receive any

Nitania13 Posted: Oct 03, 2009 03:55 PM

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It is proper etiquette to still send a gift even if you RSVP 'No', but unfortunately most people have good manners. We had the same experience. Sorry!!