Let me start by saying I 100% trust him. I know he would never sleep with another girl or perform/receive other sexual acts, so that is NOT what this is about!
I was fine with him going. I know they were going to a strip club. Before he left I asked that there would be not touching/contact whatsoever. He left at 6 pm, and was home about 3:30 a.m.
Sunday I didn't question him at all.
Last night before bed all I asked was where did they go. I needed to know, for my own peace of mind. He got all angry and defensive as if I was interrogating him. I tried to explain that I didn't care where they went or what went on. I just wanted to know so I could deal with it, rather than an offhand comment be made about that night infront of me and I am standing there like a moron, clueless. First he said there was no touching. But then that changed to that there was no touching that would have been deemed inappropiate. I asked what that meant and he said forget it, rolled over and went to sleep.
My heart ached all night. I don't care what went on, I would rather KNOW then not know.
I just e-mailed him a whole big letter. And what does he do? He turned his IM off on me and said he wasn't discussing this.
Truly, I know that sex was not involved. They were at a club, so that's a lot better then a hotel room or house. I would just rather KNOW then not know!
Am I over reacting? Would you rather know? Or do you think my FH is right and I should just drop it? HONEST opions needed please, ladies!
Heading out to lunch; will read your replies when I return.
Thanks!
NY2009
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We've been e-mailing back and forth and here is his last reply. Normally I wouldn't post our conversation but I thought it was funny and touching and he said I could share, LOL. And I so totally think he DID get a lapdance, LOL. And I fine with that; I just needed to be assured a bit, that's all.
Here's his last response:
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The way clubs use to be was a lot of gropping and all. It is not like that any more in these clubs, and a lapdance is not really a lapdance any more. All they do is dance in front of you. Yes they come close to you but they are not standing or sitting on you or grabbing you. Yes it use to be that way maybe 10 years ago, but it changed when most of them got closed down. There are some dirty clubs in the city and there are some in queens that still work that way, like Goldfingers and maybe 2 others but we wouldn't go there.
Just know I would never cross a line. Gropping and grabbing I will always only do with you. Mostly in the morning when you want to sleep and I get yelled out for it. But no girl came close to any parts of mine. I love you and will never do anything to that love. One night of fun is not worth losing the love of your life.
emc282rjm
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We've been e-mailing back and forth and here is his last reply. Normally I wouldn't post our conversation but I thought it was funny and touching and he said I could share, LOL. And I so totally think he DID get a lapdance, LOL. And I fine with that; I just needed to be assured a bit, that's all.
Here's his last response:
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The way clubs use to be was a lot of gropping and all. It is not like that any more in these clubs, and a lapdance is not really a lapdance any more. All they do is dance in front of you. Yes they come close to you but they are not standing or sitting on you or grabbing you. Yes it use to be that way maybe 10 years ago, but it changed when most of them got closed down. There are some dirty clubs in the city and there are some in queens that still work that way, like Goldfingers and maybe 2 others but we wouldn't go there.
Just know I would never cross a line. Gropping and grabbing I will always only do with you. Mostly in the morning when you want to sleep and I get yelled out for it. But no girl came close to any parts of mine. I love you and will never do anything to that love. One night of fun is not worth losing the love of your life.
That's adorable. I hope that made you feel better!
TheLadyJ
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The proper response to that is that you will give him a lap dance with groping!
laurenandmike618
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We've been e-mailing back and forth and here is his last reply. Normally I wouldn't post our conversation but I thought it was funny and touching and he said I could share, LOL. And I so totally think he DID get a lapdance, LOL. And I fine with that; I just needed to be assured a bit, that's all.
Here's his last response:
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The way clubs use to be was a lot of gropping and all. It is not like that any more in these clubs, and a lapdance is not really a lapdance any more. All they do is dance in front of you. Yes they come close to you but they are not standing or sitting on you or grabbing you. Yes it use to be that way maybe 10 years ago, but it changed when most of them got closed down. There are some dirty clubs in the city and there are some in queens that still work that way, like Goldfingers and maybe 2 others but we wouldn't go there.
Just know I would never cross a line. Gropping and grabbing I will always only do with you. Mostly in the morning when you want to sleep and I get yelled out for it. But no girl came close to any parts of mine. I love you and will never do anything to that love. One night of fun is not worth losing the love of your life.
Ohhhhhh good I'm glad you feel better.
NY2009
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Yes, I do feel so much better! I was just having a moment. With the wedding this Friday my emotions are over the place and I wasn't expecting it!
Thank you soooooooo much girls for talking me down!!!! I so much needed an ear and all of you were there! Ok.....there I go crying again!!!!! I can't wait for this week to be over with!!!!
ballnchain1010
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if he's going to cheat, he will cheat. it doesnt need to be at a bachelor party :) give him a break.
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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What probably happened was sticking some $$$ in gstring and tits... and he prob even felt weird telling you that and why hes not talking about it.... orrrrr he was forced to get a lap dance and he didnt touch so it wasnt inappropriate but still having the T&A in his face made me feel funny.... i really think hes prob reacting this way bc of one of these reasons
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz
What probably happened was sticking some $$$ in gstring and tits... and he prob even felt weird telling you that and why hes not talking about it.... orrrrr he was forced to get a lap dance and he didnt touch so it wasnt inappropriate but still having the T&A in his face made me feel funny.... i really think hes prob reacting this way bc of one of these reasons
LoL seems like i was right on the money glad you guys got to talk it out and you now feel better
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I think it is best if all the bridal party go out together. If one or the other needs to go to a strip club then they need more time and not ready for a family life. I think that is something you do when you are young and on the go, not mature adults ready to commit to someone.
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He's not talking about it b.c he doesnt feel he should be asked questions. Don't ask questions that you dont want to hear the answers to. All you have to know is that he didnt bang any other broad. My FH didnt do anything special and even he acted like a moron afterwards (why are you asking me questions? dont you trust me? is this how its gonna be? blablabla) some Men get stupid before weddings... I know mine did. Now, he's like yeah, we did this and we did that.
But I know what you mean, you just want him to be a little bit sensitive. I understand. I went through it too. But this wont even matter once the rehearsal comes. I feel like our b-parties was years ago, meanwhile it was last week.
Dont stress, relax and get back to wedding planning! your day is almost here ! Congrats you will make a beautiful bride and all those bimbos he got dances from, wont even matter. Guys arent stupid, they know they are skanks and only want money. It's called a last hoorah b.c by the end of the night, they realize that the whole stripper/club thing is totally overated. He loves you and you love him. Just remember that you are his one and only.
