Sad for my friend, and remembering to be thankful for all that I have. **Update**(LONG)

First off, thanks everyone. I just needed to vent of sorts...and just share to help me with this.

I am at the hospital with her and she will have the baby about 2-4am. She is doing well and resigned for adoption which is the best thing.

But she is doing well and my boss let me off tomorrow. So we sit and wait.****

So I have a friend Jennifer in CT I have known since the 8th grade.

She has been dealt a crappy life. She never had self esteem or self worth. Her sister was always the pretty and smart one and all Jen got was a load of crap in her lap.

She really cant hold a job better than retail. She is not 'stupid' but has never quite been main stream.

She got married for the wrong reasons to an alcoholic. (we didn't know at the time). Her mother died from smoking and lung cancer.

All the time she has been married she has had one boyfriend or another. I cant even say how many times she has had sex with other men. She even brought her current boyfriend (at the time) to her moms funeral.

She finally got back with her high school sweetheart. He was married and so was she. They have been off and on for years now. He is finally divorced but NOT living with Jen. She bounces from her dad's to his house. He has always had his cake and eaten it.

:::sigh:::::

4 years ago she goes to jail for DUI and now has a felony conviction on her. She does not drink anymore and hasn't.

::sigh::::

And now I just found out, yesterday, she is 8 months pregnant. SHE didn't know she was pregnant up until 3 weeks ago. She is sitting in the hospital right now in labor. The guy is no where to be seen and she is all alone.

And I CANT leave work to go to CT to be with her.

:::sigh::::

But the good news is she is giving the baby up for adoption. Same family is going to be able to love this child and give her a good loving home.

:::sigh:::::

I thank G-d every night for the things that I have. Looking back on the story of Jen and how different our lives have turned out breaks my heart. For years I have tried to help her. Help her keep a job. Make a budget. Spend her money wisely. Help her get on her feet. But its like talking to a brick wall.

I am in awe that I have this amazing man who loves me for me. Is supportive and kind. Who I can have and build a life with.

I pray for my friend. For the baby she is giving up, and life she will continue with. I pray she will let me help her and she takes this one day at a time.

It teaches me to remember compassion. Weather its a bride on this board who's nail broke (its a big deal in the moment) or to a friend giving a baby up for adoption.

I think I will remember this moment for a long time to come.

And I will remember what I have and be so thankful and grateful for it.

And to always help a friend in need. Even if its the hard choice. We may not like what they have done, but we can always be a good friend and give them hope where none exists.

for you and your friend

I will pray for your friend. She is very strong to be making the decision to give the baby to another family. I will pray for her to have the strength to move forward, as you said day by day. I hope she one day realizes she too deserves happiness.

i hope everything wors out for everyone involved

thats so sad. It does make you realized how good you really do have it, in the middle of wedding planning and all that stress its very easy to forget that. SOmetimes i forget and then my friends will complain how they dont have anyone and are lonley and thats when I realized what I great life ireally do have. And am soo thankful for it
And for you you seem like youve really tried to help your friends in the right direction, and Im sure she appreciates it :)

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Posted by melcc83

thats so sad. It does make you realized how good you really do have it, in the middle of wedding planning and all that stress its very easy to forget that. SOmetimes i forget and then my friends will complain how they dont have anyone and are lonley and thats when I realized what I great life ireally do have. And am soo thankful for it
And for you you seem like youve really tried to help your friends in the right direction, and Im sure she appreciates it :)

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Im trying, im really trying. She just has nothing...no self worth, nothing. I think the best thing is to try and build a foundation of self esteem for her.

But its just day by day right now. I wish I had knows about this sooner. I bet private adoption would have been the best thing. That way there would NO question about her medical bills, and she could have at least met the adoptive parents.

I know where she is going (catholic charity's??) is a VERY respectful organization but I know nothing about it.

But they said they have a family in mind.

This is one of those things where you just pray.

i will pray as well for her nothing else you can do.

I hope that everything works out for her and she turns her life around.

I hope everything works itself out. You, your friend and the baby will all be in my thoughts.

for you for for being such a compassionate friend.

for her to get her life back on track.

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Posted by mrsdraskin2009

for you for for being such a compassionate friend.

for her to get her life back on track.

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From your mouth to G-d's ears.

I friggin wish my boss would let me off so I could go to the hospital.....

...it is what it is.