saddest dream ever *update at bottom*

OMG. Girls. I just woke up from one of the saddest dreams I ever had. Half of the dream I was just uncontrollably crying -- the kind of cry where you cant even walk or stand...where you are just on the floor sobbing.

I am still really sad.

This is what happened...'

FH decided to tell his parents (in front of me) that he wanted a baby. So he decided to give his sperm to a fertility clinic and now it is fertilized or whatever and a baby will be born in a few months. I am in utter shell-shock. I cant speak, respond or anything. At this point I wasnt even mad because i was sooo shocked. He didnt even tell me anything.

His mom was happy!!! (i guess cuz she would have a grandchild??) his sister seemed okay with it too. it was so nuts

so the next part of my dream we are with my family. and i tell them FH wants kids. my mom and dad are smiling thinking we are going to give them good news. then i tell them FH's plan. FH thinks his plan makes sense.

anyway, as i am speaking it, i become sooo mad and angry. how could he do this? so i just start yelling at him and asking my family if im nuts. thankfully, my family agrees with me and i think tey are shocked.

FH leaves the table and i follow him. asking him questions, yelling. then i just start crying sooo hard. so i go between uncontrollable crying and infuriated yelling.

and he thinks its fine.

i kept looking at my ring in my dream. knowing i should take it off and give it back to him. cuz this would not work. i do not want a baby now. and i dont want one that isnt even mine now! omg. it was so bad. i knew i had to give the ring back and break it off

but i couldnt do it. so ijust kept crying.

then i woke up

any ideas what that means? im still too sad to even try to look that up or interpret it. i will tell FH later and see what he says....

but please dont QUOTE!!!! THANKS GIRLS

stress in your life that u have littke or no control over maybe???

I am not sure what it means but I am sooo sorry you had such a sad dream!!

That's a scary one
I've heard that when a baby is present in a dream, but not actually in your real life, that the baby represents something new.
Is there something new that you guys are dealing with? New job, new car, something like that?

Did you drink last night, or take any kind of medications? Sometimes I have wacky dreams after a couple of dreams...don't even get me started on NyQuil dreams. They are scary wacky.

In any event, as the day goes on, you'll feel better. It's still fresh in your mind, and you haven't told FH yet, so even though you've written it out here, you haven't actually TALKED it out, know what I mean?

OMG Janis......I'm sorry you're feeling this way, but remember IT'S A DREAM!

I have a tendency to get really mad at FH in my dreams and then wake up mad at him, and he's like what the h e l l did I do???? Don't let it get to that point. You can explain the dream to him, and that it made you upset, but don't be mad at him in real life because he didn't really do anything.

Has your FH ever talked about fertility clinics? Have you been talking a lot of baby talk? Remember dreams are usually our subconscious thoughts coming into consciousness.

That is an awful dream!!

A therapist friend of mine once told me that we play every role in our dreams--that it's not about other people at all. Sooo...maybe you're feeling uncertain feelings about babies? About how soon you want them? About where you fit in with your FH's family?

It's scary to think that you play all of the roles in your dream, but it's totally changed the way I think about mine!

oh Janis that is insane! so sorry, that sounds so horrible! had a few of those myself, including FH cheating and me waking up and being suspicious of him and accusing him of things. insanity, but dreams affect me like that too.

I think this dream is about the apartment u guys been searching for, and the disagreements that u guys have about where and how. I really think that subject is stressing u out this much. Do u feel maybe that John is taking control more and leading of what he wants in terms of the apt?
it really could be this. just talk to him

Awww...
It sounds like you are stressed out, and the dream is probably a little piece of everything.
Try not to dwell on it!! I hate dreams that shake you to the core. Very bothersome.

Awww, sorry about the dream. Thank goodness it is ONLY A DREAM. I know it's hard sometimes to wake up from a dream and just say,'it's just a dream', but if you feel better, talk to FH about it.

I'm not exactly sure what it means but does FH want to have kids before you and now it's manifesting in your dreams?

thanks girls. i spoke to FH. he was like ***?!?!?

funny thing was that we spoke about fertility clinics before, and he said he didnt want to go that route. we both agreed we would rather look into adoption since there are so many kids in need

i think im over the dream now. but it was just so crazy.

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Posted by Lsorrent

OMG Janis......I'm sorry you're feeling this way, but remember IT'S A DREAM!

I have a tendency to get really mad at FH in my dreams and then wake up mad at him, and he's like what the h e l l did I do???? Don't let it get to that point. You can explain the dream to him, and that it made you upset, but don't be mad at him in real life because he didn't really do anything.

Has your FH ever talked about fertility clinics? Have you been talking a lot of baby talk? Remember dreams are usually our subconscious thoughts coming into consciousness.

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Thats so funny and true. I've done this many a times, having a dream that FH did something and then I wake up and I'm really mad at him in real life and don't even want to talk to him, lol. But try not to stress to much about it hun, I know it probably felt so real and thats probably whats freaking you out. I'm sure you'll feel better once you speak to FH about it.

dAMN girl..........all i can say is

its just a dream.


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