Save the Date Question

EJANov2010 Posted: Mar 10, 2010 09:52 AM

Save the Date Question

Who do you send them to? Everyone you are inviting? What rationale is used in deciding who to send to?

thanks!!!!

AwaitingAugust Posted: Mar 10, 2010 09:54 AM

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Yes, everyone who is invited should get an STD.

They're not required though ... FH and I aren't doing them at all.

Lisalana Posted: Mar 10, 2010 09:54 AM

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I just sent mine out yesterday, so can happily answer this question :)

we sent them to all of the guests that we are definitely inviting.

FutureJOC Posted: Mar 10, 2010 09:54 AM

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I am pretty much sending only to those people I am 100% positive will be invited to the wedding. If you have any 'B Listers' than I would hold off on sending to them because the etiquette is 'If they get a Save the Date, they get in Invitation' and by the time invitations go out you may have changed your mind about inviting them.

Jna2010 Posted: Mar 10, 2010 09:55 AM

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yes everyone you are inviting should get one, however, i only sent one per house hold if say i invited the parents and their daughter with a guest... i didnt really see a point in giving them multiple save the dates if they live in the same house

JBC12510 Posted: Mar 10, 2010 09:56 AM

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I only sent them to my A list guests

jennybee Posted: Mar 10, 2010 10:13 AM

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Posted by JBC12510

I only sent them to my A list guests

Agreed. If there's anyone you're on the fence about even a little, don't send to them!!

leesah85 Posted: Mar 10, 2010 10:15 AM

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Posted by jennybee

Posted by JBC12510

I only sent them to my A list guests

Agreed. If there's anyone you're on the fence about even a little, don't send to them!!

Agreed!

Jesebelle Posted: Mar 10, 2010 10:58 AM

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We are sending them to family and the BP, and any close friends that are OOT. We are not sending them to co-workers and not so close friends. it's crazy watching the guest list evolve! People break up, fall off the face of the earth, etc. I only want to send them to people I definitely know that I'll want there a year later! (Yes, I am sending the STDs a year before since we are having a holiday weekend wedding).

allornil Posted: Mar 10, 2010 11:00 AM

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I'd leave coworkers out unless you;re REALLY close with them. If you leave your job, or they do you may not want to invite them to the wedding.

jwleewedding Posted: Mar 10, 2010 11:12 AM

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ITA. only send them to the ppl you are definite on inviting and def 1 per household.

chrisandjeanne Posted: Mar 10, 2010 11:48 AM

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Since my wedding is on a holiday weekend, I'm going to send them to everyone so they know in advance.

Gerbera Posted: Mar 10, 2010 11:51 AM

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We only sent to FI's family (mainly traveling), friends and a couple of my relatives and my immediate family.

People from my family won't know what the heck a save the date is. And they all live in the city the wedding is in so it was easy to decide not to send them a save the date.

GlitterBox24 Posted: Mar 10, 2010 11:52 AM

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Im getting married Labor Day Sunday so we are sending them out to family and 'close'friends not the 400 people on our list.

Lil OC Posted: Mar 10, 2010 11:59 AM

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We gave one to our guests that we had at our e-party since they obvs will all be invited to our wedding. We put them with the favors. Everyone thought this was a great idea, and it def saved on postage (we had 85 ppl at the eparty). I am also planning on sending them to ppl we are DEF inviting to the wedding, but def not sending them to ppl we are not sure about.

DaniandKen2010 Posted: Mar 10, 2010 01:27 PM

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Family and friends. Only people we were definitely inviting and knew that in a year we would still be talking to.

EJANov2010 Posted: Mar 10, 2010 03:10 PM

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Thanks for all of your responses. Really helpful!! The people I am on the fence about are from work. I've been at my firm for >5 years but have a new boss. Will end up inviting him if I still work for him but there are so many changes happening within the company, I want to wait a bit to make that call. Thanks ladies!