What exactly is the etiquette for sending save the dates? Do you send to everyone on your guest list or just your closest friends and family?
I'd say anyone who you KNOW will be invited. Not everyone needs one, especially if they're a maybe. You don't want to send a save the date then realize you don't want them there or worse, don't have room for them. Any out of town guests should definitely get a save the date so they can prepare for travel.
We sent one to everyone we're definitely planning on inviting. Also, some of our older cousins that still live with our aunts/uncles, we only sent one Save the Date to the household even though we'll be sending separate invitations when the time comes.
Yeah, we're planning to send them to the people who are on the definite A list. Which will end up being most of the people invited, but there are some we are still unsure about, so they're not getting Save the Dates. I'd rather someone not get a Save the date, but get an invite intend of the other way around - getting a Save the date, but not an invite - yikes!
What about not sending it to like FMIL's co-workers that she put on the list, or even my co-workers because it's not hugely important to me if they come or not. I am more or less inviting them out of formality.
Posted by killerqueen
Yeah, we're planning to send them to the people who are on the definite A list. Which will end up being most of the people invited, but there are some we are still unsure about, so they're not getting Save the Dates. I'd rather someone not get a Save the date, but get an invite intend of the other way around - getting a Save the date, but not an invite - yikes!
