Save the dates and +1 guests

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Apr 25, 2005 01:10 PM

Save the dates and +1 guests

For those girls using save the dates:

Are you inviting 'plus 1' guests on the save the dates, or are you waiting to do that on the actual invitation?
Ideally, I want invite all of my guests' significant others, but if my guests are single at the time the inviation goes out, I just want to invite them, but no guest. How should I specify this, since a lot can happen in the year between save the dates and invitations? I

csorisi Posted: Apr 25, 2005 01:12 PM

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I didn't put & guest on the Save the Date--I am waiting for the invites to specify guest or not.

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Apr 25, 2005 01:13 PM

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Posted by csorisi

I didn't put & guest on the Save the Date--I am waiting for the invites to specify guest or not.

ditto

Robin404 Posted: Apr 25, 2005 01:36 PM

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I agree

jesslangen Posted: Apr 25, 2005 01:38 PM

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I did, them later found out I shouldn't have

SUNSHINE24 Posted: Apr 25, 2005 01:44 PM

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I just went through the same thing. I put ' & guest' on the save the dates then when it came to writing out the invitations i couldnt invite everyone with a guest. SO i would hold off on that.

dita531 Posted: Apr 25, 2005 01:55 PM

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That's what I did.

Posted by csorisi

I didn't put & guest on the Save the Date--I am waiting for the invites to specify guest or not.

marymoon Posted: Apr 25, 2005 01:58 PM

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generally you don;t even out & guest/ It's not an invitation. There's no guest involved in an STD. Also, as someone said a lot can change! You never know who you will and will not be able to invite with guest, plsu if you write & guest on the STD, it like doesn't make sense b/c you're really only addressing the person, not the guest. I can't articulate what i mean..but there's no guest for theb STD, you're not inviting a guest to look at it? blah am I making sense? it's like sending an engagement announcement..there's really no guest involved!

mrswask Posted: Apr 25, 2005 02:01 PM

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What marymoon said - but I'll try to explain it a little differently - you're asking your friend, relative, etc. to save the date for your wedding - as she said - not an invite - so you are not inviting anyone anywhere with a guest - you're just asking someone to be aware of that date (for an upcoming wedding and invite further down the line). So, you don't need to put 'and guest.'

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Apr 25, 2005 02:02 PM

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Thanks, girls. That makes sense. I have one more question...

For the established couples that have been dating for years, can I put both names on the STD envelope? I don't want to insult anyone and it is almost certain they will still be dating for the wedding.