Save the Dates Question -- to 'And Guest' or not to 'And Guest' -- that is the question!

PreshusSmurf Posted: Oct 30, 2006 09:21 PM

Save the Dates Question -- to 'And Guest' or not to 'And Guest' -- that is the question!

We are working on our Save the Dates and can't decide if our single friend & family envelopes should include 'and Guest' or not?!

They will all probably be invited with a guest to the wedding.

What do you think we should do?

MJDoc12 Posted: Oct 30, 2006 09:35 PM

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as far as i know--you never put 'And Guest' on an STD. it's an informal reminder--therefore '& Guest' is not required. just the single guest's name is enough.

you only need '& Guest' on the INNER envelope of the invitation.

libby2595 Posted: Oct 30, 2006 09:36 PM

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you just need to inform those who will get an invitation that:
formal invitation to follow

hth

DNicholes Posted: Oct 30, 2006 09:37 PM

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I just sent mine out & did not put 'and guest' on the envelopes.

sarahradio5 Posted: Oct 30, 2006 09:41 PM

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I say to not put guest... I agree with the other girls.

One piece of extra advice... just send STD's to CLOSE friends and family... those you DEFINITELY know you will be inviting to your wedding and will definitely be on an 'A' list - or people who if you found yourself in a position where you had to cut out some people, that those wouldn't be the people to go. Once people have a Save the Date, you can't send Forget the Dates! I personally wish I didn't send STD's to my coworkers because I felt very different a year and a half after sending them my STD's than I did when the wedding invites went out, but HAD to invite them because they had my STD magnets! So, just send to your 'no-doubt-about-it' guests. (take it from me! )

libby2595 Posted: Oct 30, 2006 09:43 PM

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Posted by sarahradio5

I say to not put guest... I agree with the other girls.

One piece of extra advice... just send STD's to CLOSE friends and family... those you DEFINITELY know you will be inviting to your wedding and will definitely be on an 'A' list - or people who if you found yourself in a position where you had to cut out some people, that those wouldn't be the people to go. Once people have a Save the Date, you can't send Forget the Dates! I personally wish I didn't send STD's to my coworkers because I felt very different a year and a half after sending them my STD's than I did when the wedding invites went out, but HAD to invite them because they had my STD magnets! So, just send to you 'no-doubt-about-it' guests. (take it from me! )

great point!! because guest-lists morph throughout the planning process.

billandme Posted: Oct 30, 2006 09:59 PM

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Posted by libby2595

you just need to inform those who will get an invitation that:
formal invitation to follow

hth

agreed that's what we're doing

EverlovingEv Posted: Oct 30, 2006 10:01 PM

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Dont have my STDs but plan on 'guest' being on the invite only.

LaurenF Posted: Oct 30, 2006 11:10 PM

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I did not send mine to 'and guest'----only to the person i KNEW was invited. if you think about it, it makes no sense to put 'and guest', since the 'and guest' likely does not exist yet, otherwise you'd be putting the actual name of the guest. so essentially, you'd be reminding a non-existent person to save the date.

kathrynlinton Posted: Oct 30, 2006 11:59 PM

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Posted by sarahradio5

I say to not put guest... I agree with the other girls.

One piece of extra advice... just send STD's to CLOSE friends and family... those you DEFINITELY know you will be inviting to your wedding and will definitely be on an 'A' list - or people who if you found yourself in a position where you had to cut out some people, that those wouldn't be the people to go. Once people have a Save the Date, you can't send Forget the Dates! I personally wish I didn't send STD's to my coworkers because I felt very different a year and a half after sending them my STD's than I did when the wedding invites went out, but HAD to invite them because they had my STD magnets! So, just send to your 'no-doubt-about-it' guests. (take it from me! )

This is all very true. Send them to people who are going to be invited no matter what.

Oh and don't put and guest. I invited everyone with a guest, that can be a happy little surprise when they get the invite in my opinion.

PegaLega Posted: Oct 31, 2006 12:11 AM

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Im not putting 'and guest' on mine, only on the invitations

snydl40 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 12:32 AM

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We aren't putting 'and guest.'

ejm1219 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 05:33 AM

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I didn't put and guest on but I did put anyone that was in a relationship - their name on it!

ali120206 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 08:18 AM

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Posted by ejm1219

I didn't put and guest on but I did put anyone that was in a relationship - their name on it!

Me too, if I knew the guest's name I put it on the save the date but, if not, I just addressed it to the individual and put and guest on their invitations.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Oct 31, 2006 08:48 AM

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NO, the 'and guest' is for the invitation. This is for the person that is actually invited to the wedding.

PreshusSmurf Posted: Oct 31, 2006 12:01 PM

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Thanks girls! I love being able to come here and get advice from ppl going through the same things!

foodiequeen Posted: Oct 31, 2006 01:27 PM

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So I just sent out the STD and did not put 'and Guest' I did however not know how to spell one of my friends fiances name so I just addressed it to her (ps..they do not live together) Well it turns out they she was upset and only thought she was invited and got all mad that I didn't address it to her and her FH.

IT GOES WITHOUT SAYING THAT YOUR FH IS INVITED!!!Mind you she is a fellow bride in planning and should cut me some slack .