seating chart question

mlcvln129 Posted: Jan 19, 2009 10:46 AM

seating chart question

How many 'cooks in the kitchen' need to help create a seating chart? I don't want too many!!!!

MrsDtoBe09 Posted: Jan 19, 2009 10:46 AM

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Only fh and I. The families can deal with it!

mlcvln129 Posted: Jan 19, 2009 10:47 AM

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That's what I want it to be, too. If we have any questions, one of us could easily call the respective mother to ask that question.

MrsDtoBe09 Posted: Jan 19, 2009 10:48 AM

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Posted by mlcvln129

That's what I want it to be, too. If we have any questions, one of us could easily call the respective mother to ask that question.

Definitely.

Jsquared279 Posted: Jan 19, 2009 10:49 AM

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We just did this Saturday night. It was me, FH, My Mom and My sister. We needed the help and Mom wanted input so it worked out well. HTH

coldasice217 Posted: Jan 19, 2009 11:00 AM

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I'm going to ask FMIL for input only as far as who is related to who, because some of her family I don't know if it's cousins on her mom's side or dad's. Other than that, I think I can figure out the 10 people in my family lol.

MrsList09 Posted: Jan 19, 2009 11:48 AM

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I'd give each mom a shot at it, explaining that you have final say and it may change if you see fit, and then you can do seating for your friends. Better to just involve them in the process than hear the b!tching that will surely ensue if you don't.

sharivera Posted: Jan 19, 2009 11:51 AM

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I would definitely just do it with FH..if you have any questions just call the parents and ask...but too many cooks can spoil the pot.. (is that the saying?) lol...

Celeste617 Posted: Jan 19, 2009 01:01 PM

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Just FH and I will do it

mlcvln129 Posted: Jan 19, 2009 10:49 PM

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When should I start doing this??? It's less than 6 months before the wedding.

Almostawife Posted: Jan 19, 2009 10:51 PM

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I believe we get a certain amount of tables.

I'm going to give each parent a certain amount of tables, depending on the size of their guest list and they have to make it work with their people and FH and I will make final adjustments

sumerbride09 Posted: Jan 19, 2009 10:56 PM

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Im going to let both parents have thier say but FH and I make all final decisions.

KerriJohnS Posted: Jan 19, 2009 11:00 PM

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Honestly I will be doing the bulk of it before we actually get together (I did the eparty this way and it made a world of a difference)... I drew up like 3 scenerios (maybe more).... and then my mother and grandmother came into play and they were able to tell me where they wanted their people and who could and should sit near whom etc. Then I have FH and his mom take care of that part.

I think it all depends on who you are inviting and how well you know them. For me my mother is inviting a good amount of people.. so i will let her pick who she thinks should sit with whom and where. same goes for FH and his mother.. they can figure out who goes where for the people they know. It gets to be a little tricky.. especially when you have people who can't sit near someone because of silly reasons.. which believe me does happen!

mrsjpc3 Posted: Jan 19, 2009 11:00 PM

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I asked FMIL to seat her side. And then I asked my mom to do her side/my family. DH and I did our own friends. IT worked out nicely - no fights. I think I asked them to do it about 3-4 weeks before... once i head a good idea of the head count and who was coming for sure. We were done with it really quick.... let them fuss over it on their own time, so there is no drama if you all do it together.

KerriJohnS Posted: Jan 19, 2009 11:02 PM

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Posted by sumerbride09

Im going to let both parents have thier say but FH and I make all final decisions.

i think you should totally do this.. but be careful with telling them that's what you are doing in the end; just so they dont get upset. i think making the final decisions can be done in quiet and just handed into the RH. I doubt anyone would notice changes the day of. There will be sooo many other things to focus on.

mlcvln129 Posted: Jan 19, 2009 11:07 PM

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Since I BARELY know some of the friends that FMIL is inviting, maybe it's best if I say, 'Okay, you have x number of tables, so seat your friends and family for me!!' With my family, I think I can go by my sister's seating chart from two years ago. Friends will be easy enough.

I like that idea for FMIL's side!!!