need advice. i know this has been asked alot. i just need help making my pros and cons list. i dont know what to do. thanks and if you know of any pics i can see of this taking place that would be awesome as well.
eelharas4700
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we are not seeing each other before the ceremony. it starts at noon and we are having a mass, so then our ch isn't until 5 so we have plenty of time for pictures. i know that photogs can get pics of fh when he first sees you. i havent seen any....sorry i cant help you on that part!
jus and james
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we are taking pics before. We're having our ceremony at our reception hall and we don't want to miss cocktail hour. I want to enjoy every second of my day and spend time with the family and friends that are at our wedding.
LBride
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We saw each other before and took all our pictures before the ceremony. It was the best decision of the whole wedding. Even my very traditional parents thought so. When my brother and sister got married they both spent their entire cocktail hours taking pictures. To me taking pictures is stressful because you have to deal with keeping track of everyone and where they run off to or how they are not paying attention. I'm happy I ddi it because it gave us a quiet moment together to see each other. We are both very emotional. It also gave us time to mingle with guests during the cocktail our so we could enjoy the reception with our family and firneds .Coming down the aislle I think I looked at everyone but Mike.. I wanted to see my grandfather's face, my students were there.. when I got to the end I lrealized I totally didn't look at DH..haha... ISeeing each other before didn't take the thrill or excitement out of anything, it just made everything so less stressful! and it even made the day seem longer, which I liked because from the church on., everything flew by
qtdimps23
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Posted by jus and james
we are taking pics before. We're having our ceremony at our reception hall and we don't want to miss cocktail hour. I want to enjoy every second of my day and spend time with the family and friends that are at our wedding.
i agree. the food at the CH is gonna be so good i dont want to miss it!! plus id rather use that time saying hi to everyone instead of when i could be dancing.
MattandTricia07
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We are not taking pictures before..I am old fashioned and we have time after the ceremony to take pictures. I have read from brides who have seen their FH before, walking down the aisle was just as special.
Flutterbye922
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I want to see his expression when those chruch doors open, so no, we aren't going to see eachother.
We live together - so I am actually sleeping at my parents the night before. I will not see FH until the ceremony.
lucky13
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We both feel 100% the same on this issue and the fact that our ceremony is @10:30am there is only one option for us. The look on his face when he sees me for the first time in my dress coming down the aisle will be an ever lasting memory; I just hope we both don’t get to emotional.
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We thought long and hard about it, and decided we wanted to spend as much of the wedding as we could enjoying ourselves and seeing the folks we cared about, so pictures beforehand.
--the stealth groom
D's Girl
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We thought long and hard about it, and decided we wanted to spend as much of the wedding as we could enjoying ourselves and seeing the folks we cared about, so pictures beforehand.
--the stealth groom
Same here. I don't want to miss a second of my Wedding. Even though we are seeing each other before, when I walk down the isle it will be just as emotional as if we did not see each other.
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Posted by qtdimps23
Posted by jus and james
we are taking pics before. We're having our ceremony at our reception hall and we don't want to miss cocktail hour. I want to enjoy every second of my day and spend time with the family and friends that are at our wedding.
i agree. the food at the CH is gonna be so good i dont want to miss it!! plus id rather use that time saying hi to everyone instead of when i could be dancing.
Totally agree... we're not going to sleep together the night b4, get ready seperate then we'll take pics together, but still make it special when we FIRST see each other... then the rest of the night we'll enjoy CH, dancing, etc. Not have to worry about taking any more of the 'traditional' shots.
LaurenluvsTJ
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we did it, no regrets!
acsm
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we are seeing each other before the ceremony.. we want to take pics at the planting fields and at our RH so we dont have much of a choice... (we are getting married at the RH)...
i think either way is fine... it will be special no matter what!
malagian
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Posted by Flutterbye922
I want to see his expression when those chruch doors open, so no, we aren't going to see eachother.
We live together - so I am actually sleeping at my parents the night before. I will not see FH until the ceremony.
I totally agree with you. The first expression i love it and dont want to ruin it. Thats my favorite part of a wedding looking at the groom as he first sees the bride for the first time. Its priceless!!!!!!!
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Posted by eperlman
Posted by qtdimps23
Posted by jus and james
we are taking pics before. We're having our ceremony at our reception hall and we don't want to miss cocktail hour. I want to enjoy every second of my day and spend time with the family and friends that are at our wedding.
i agree. the food at the CH is gonna be so good i dont want to miss it!! plus id rather use that time saying hi to everyone instead of when i could be dancing.
Totally agree... we're not going to sleep together the night b4, get ready seperate then we'll take pics together, but still make it special when we FIRST see each other... then the rest of the night we'll enjoy CH, dancing, etc. Not have to worry about taking any more of the 'traditional' shots.
I'm with them. Sleep separate, pics before the ceremony and getting to eat at the CH.
GinaZ
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we were going to, then my recently married sister said she is so glad they waited to see eachother. She said it was her most memorable and meaningful moment of her wedding- seeing him as she walks down the aisle. So hearing ehr exlain it made me sad to think I wouldn't get that moment. Like I would prolly have a variation of it if we see eachother for pictures, but I dont think it would be the same. So now we are not seeing eachother! Which is great for us, but not our photos! Haha.
MandG072909
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DH and I both felt like we should do things traditionally and didn't see each other before and if I could rewind I'd have to think long and hard about doing that way again...
When I walked down the isle it was nice and all to get that first view but we were both kind of nervous and DH was all shy/tough with everyone staritng at him so the whole thing wasn't nearly as emotional as I had built it up to be...one of my BMs did pics before the ceremony and they did that whole tap on the shoulder reveal thing w/ just their closest friends and family around and IMO it was much more special moment than what my DH and I had
We also thought that we had more than enough time for pics after the ceremony but everything just took SO MUCH longer than anticipated and we ended up missing our entire cocktail hour and still having to take a few group photos during the reception...this was not at all what I wanted and it really started off the day on a bad note for me (eventually it all worked itself out but I think that I definately would have overall enjoyed our day more if we didn't have to worry about all that when we really just wanted to spend time with our guests)
So long story short...noone can tell you whats better for you but I only realize after going through it that there are definately a lot of pluses to pics before ceremony
erdbeere
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I originally wanted to do things traditionally and not see eachother until I walk down the aisle, but my photographer said she prefers doing pics before the ceremony and then I realized its not a bad idea after all. And since there nothing too traditional about the wedding anyway, we figured what the heck. First of all, you don't have to miss any part of your day for pictures. And the photographer will give you a few min alone after taking pics of when you fist see eachother which will probably be the only time you have alone the entire day. I jst think it will be much more intimate and romantic if we see eachother kind of alone rather than infront of all the guests. I saw some pics of the whole sequence of the bride and grooms eeing eachother before the wedding, but this is the only one I could find now:
Welcome to my world!!!! I have been agonizing over this for the past couple of weeks!! I think we are just going to go for it and see eachother before the wedding to take pics. Our ceremony is at 7PM at the RH and we are having it in the fall on beautiful grounds with gorgeous colors and our photogs are really trying to get us to rethink the whole 'not seeing eachother before the ceremony'. They said that the photo opps are amazing that time of year and it might be something we regret if we miss any daytime photos we might have had. I thought long and hard about it and I think it will be better to take the pics while we are fresh and it's daylight, rather than after I just cried through a half hour ceremony!!
