sex change

Original post by jayepyt

Jul 22, 2009 10:48 AM

would u be with fh if he got a sex change

eta to sAY i wouldnt bc i married a man for a reason and i dont think fh would stay with me if i got 1

MrsC2010 Posted: Jul 22, 2009 11:06 AM

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no way

shelbylove918 Posted: Jul 22, 2009 11:07 AM

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Fh and I were watching this last night too. I was like umm.. yea I dunno if i could stay in a relationship with NO INTIMACY?? that would be very difficult!! ofcoarse Fh makes a wise *** comment and says .. they should have an agreement and be able to bring a guy home for both of them.. im like.. UR AN ***!!LOL

AdriandSteve Posted: Jul 22, 2009 11:13 AM

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I dunno how i'd feel. Their son was holding a pic he said, 'this is barry (bro), this is me, this is mom, and this is uh... my other mom who used to be my dad.'

gonzalezm3 Posted: Jul 22, 2009 11:14 AM

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probably not

soontobecruz Posted: Jul 22, 2009 11:20 AM

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ummmmm no....

I kinda think that person is not who they once were, and I would kind feel deceived. I mean I assume FH is bottling up these feelings for LONG TIME.... why the hell would he marry me then?? I would feel like a fool

runnerbride1023 Posted: Jul 22, 2009 11:40 AM

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Posted by AdriandSteve

I dunno how i'd feel. Their son was holding a pic he said, 'this is barry (bro), this is me, this is mom, and this is uh... my other mom who used to be my dad.'

OMG. I didnt watch, but I would definitely need counciling if i was part of this situation. children, wife, etc.

MikesBride2B Posted: Jul 22, 2009 11:43 AM

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FH already has longer hair than I do so I guess my answer is yes

But in reality...I don't know. I wanna say yes because he'd still be the person I fell in love with but at the same time maybe he wouldn't...probably I wouldn't be able to stay with him.

regy_k Posted: Jul 22, 2009 11:55 AM

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for me then yes. I would def stay but will ask him/her to do extensive counseling
FH would not stay with me. he wouldnt be able to handle that.

I'll ask him tonight
He prob would have a coronary over this

Katlyco Posted: Jul 22, 2009 12:15 PM

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Posted by MNM91710

What kind of question is that?

I'm with ya....

stinenandy2010 Posted: Jul 22, 2009 12:18 PM

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This was on Oprah a while back. There was a couple who had grown children and after like 20 years together, the guy said he wanted a sex change. She stayed with him....they still sleep in separate rooms but never got a divorce.

As for me, I would get a divorce. Fh would not be the same person I married. I would just feel betrayed, like all the years we were together he lied to me.

FallBride2010 Posted: Jul 22, 2009 01:13 PM

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I dont think so -- there would be much bigger issues than just his sex

iquel Posted: Jul 22, 2009 01:25 PM

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I would still love him but I don't think I would be able to bare it. I know if I had a sex change he wouldn't be with me no matter how much he loved me (he would say I married the woman of my dreams not a man). But then again maybe if I were in that situation it would be different.

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Jul 22, 2009 01:40 PM

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Posted by AngnShaun

Posted by MrsSoto

ummm i really have never ever thought about this. if he was getting a sex change, im pretty sure there would be other things going on with him and i dont know if he would want to be with me...??????

besides the fact that this would never happen... ita with what you said... lol

I agree with this...but I also think it is absolutely impossible to to make a decision about this without being in th situation. There's many other circumstances to determine ones reaction...I mean, yes, inherently it is still FH, but physically it is not...you are attracted to FH because of his sex, because of his physicality, and if that changed, would you still be attracted to him? Would you be able to maintain a relationship, personally, sexually, with him having a different exterior?

This is way too jarring to think about. It requires a LOT more thought than a simple yes or no I think.

grrulz Posted: Jul 22, 2009 01:40 PM

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i would!!

Bride825 Posted: Jul 22, 2009 02:35 PM

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Posted by kris_gets_hitched

I'm going to say yes, because I feel like some people are geared towards falling in love with a person, regardless of their gender.
So yes, if FH was a woman/got gender reassignment surgery, then I'd most likely be with him. Her. Whatever. Because I'm in love with that person.

same...but i hope that it doesnt happen

agapiiiii Posted: Jul 22, 2009 02:41 PM

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So if my FH got a sex change to become a woman?? Wouldnt that make you a lesbian HELLLLLL NOOOOOO

JoanneAndJustin Posted: Jul 22, 2009 07:50 PM

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No.

If FH got a sex change and wanted to be a woman, I would leave him. Not because I couldn't be a lesbian... that's the smallest part of this equation. If FH figured after 30 years he wanted to live life as a WOMAN his whole relationship with me and our life together is a big farce. By changing his gender he's changing the person I fell in love with. We would no longer have the same experiences or be able to share our lives the way we set out to share them.

And if we had kids... I'd kill him before he even had the surgery. That's just too much for any kid to handle, and he should have thought about all this before starting a family with me. It's unfair to a kid through all that. IMO, of course.