Should I feel hurt......

Should I feel hurt or am I over-reacting alittle??

Many of you may remember this story. One of my BM's (my FSIL) went to NYC with her Daughter for a girl scout trip and missed my shower. It was on the 26th......and I still have not heard from her. She has not even called to see how it went or anything.......I was thinking about calling her to see how the trip went but I really started thinking about this and am actually really hurt that she didn't call me to see how the shower was.

Just wondering if maybe stress is getting to me and this really isn't that much od a big deal and I should just call her and see how the trip went.........What do you all think???

I wouldn't, only because your FSIL seems to be very self-centered. I remember the original post.

She most likely won't ask about your shower. Had she cared, she might have sent a gift to be there.

If you do want to call, give it a couple of days, but don't feel hurt about it.

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Posted by SusiBtoM

I wouldn't, only because your FSIL seems to be very self-centered. I remember the original post.

She most likely won't ask about your shower. Had she cared, she might have sent a gift to be there.

If you do want to call, give it a couple of days, but don't feel hurt about it.

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ditto

i don't think she seemed to care much about it---so i wouldn't be shocked about her not asking. i think you were just hoping she would redeem herself by phoning you, but now that she hasn't it hurts more.

sorry that she is doing that--but just know she obviously doesn't care as much as you hoped she would about the wedding and you.

She probably just figured the shower went like showers go - theres presents then cake, or cake then presents. Or someone else mentioned it. I would let it go.

Edit:
I should probably mention that neither of my FSILs came to my shower, (although one is only 17). FMIL came and left a bit early. Both also showed late to the rehearsal dinner, but theyre readers, not in the BP.

And in case anyone is wondering, I am familiar with the use of apostrophes, but everytime I try to insert one, I get the quick search function and cant type anymore.

similar situation happened to me..

one of my BMs missed the bachelorette party and never asked how it went.. i was debating about calling her and letting her know that it was great but i decided not to... it bothered me that hse didnt ven say anything but you'll get over it.. its not worth it..

sometimes people are just wrapped into their own things.

my SIL [bleghhh I hate calling her that]
ok- my BIL's wife [hehe] didn't come to mine and I called HER a couple days later saying thanks for the gift and I told her I was going to come over to give her a favor. So I went and gave her the favor a few days later and she was soooo apologetic.. I just acted like I didn't care [I REALLY didn't] I was the bigger person in the situation and just made her feel sooooooooo little by being NICE.

I don't know if this will work for you but honey, theres so many other people in this world that love you. DONT let someone get you down, its not worth the tears and aggrivation

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Posted by MrsBartonToBe

my SIL [bleghhh I hate calling her that]
ok- my BIL's wife [hehe] didn't come to mine and I called HER a couple days later saying thanks for the gift and I told her I was going to come over to give her a favor. So I went and gave her the favor a few days later and she was soooo apologetic.. I just acted like I didn't care [I REALLY didn't] I was the bigger person in the situation and just made her feel sooooooooo little by being NICE.

I don't know if this will work for you but honey, theres so many other people in this world that love you. DONT let someone get you down, its not worth the tears and aggrivation

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I agree w/ Rosella..kill em w/ kindness dont let it get you.

I had a simular situation happen to me for my bridal shower. I know that my bridal shower was planned late. FSIL came and supposedly complain to MOH that this day was not convient for her.

I was happy that she actually came to one of our events. This is FH's SIL.

I heard alot of stuff about my bridal shower which was supposed to be a surprise and I basically just let it go because I had a good time and that is all that is important.

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