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Should I feel insulted?

kattus Posted:

Should I feel insulted?

one of my bridesmaids told me that her bf will not be going to the ceremony because of the traffic coming in from Jersey that time of the day. Traffic is traffic, and he'll only have to drive from Jersey to Woodbury in one shot as opposed to driving to Queens, so now I'm concerned he won't be going at all.

Another bridesmaid who initially said her husband would be driving her since she gets motion sickness in limos told me today that he'll take the train to her father's, who will then drive him to the reception. I asked her if she'll be ok in the limo, and she said she doesn't have a choice, does she? So now HE won't be going to the ceremony, either. FH and I attended their wedding a few months ago and they have a shuttle bus for guests since theirs was out by the vineyards in Abeqogue. FH said she prob thinks we should have gotten a shuttle bus, but I'm sorry, my Mommy and Daddy didn't pay for 3/4 of my wedding so I would afford one. Are FH and I overreacting? He thinks it is incredibly rude that the bf and husband are now skipping out on the ceremony.
Bride2012 Posted:

Re: Should I feel insulted?

I think you it is insulting. Maybe more so because they said they were going to come and they are springing this on you at the last minute. I feel that the ceremony is the most imprtant part but other people as guests believe its the reception. I wouldn't sweat it. Just enjoy these special moments!!! Its your BIG day and its all about you!!!

PSP Posted:

Re: Should I feel insulted?

let her sit in the front seat with the limo driver. I get sick in limos as well. Its a horrible feeling driving sideways or backwards if it affects you a lot.

Or tell her to take dramamine.
Kristin31613 Posted:

Re: Should I feel insulted?

IDK, you know them better but normally we don't make the ceremonies. If it is someone really close, then obviously. Maybe you could talk to them about it and let them know your feelings are hurt?

cdh2672 Posted:

Re: Should I feel insulted?


Posted by PSP

let her sit in the front seat with the limo driver. I get sick in limos as well. Its a horrible feeling driving sideways or backwards if it affects you a lot.

Or tell her to take dramamine.



This... I get sick too but..... Don't let it bother u. People are going to do what they want to do,,,,just focus on the day and dont let certain people ruin it !
pjt212301 Posted:

Re: Should I feel insulted?

I agree with the other ladies, please try not to let it bother you. Most people really only think of themselves.....bummer, I know but you still need to enjoy your day and not worry so much.

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