So FH has been pretty involved (as far as going with me to appointments and what not) but for the most part, I've been making all of the decisions for the wedding. .... I finally found a florist that I LOVE and HOOKED us up with a GREAT price and I thought I had all of my boquets picked out (Me with Either Yellow or Pink mini callas, all of my girls (10 total) with white mini callas and blue delphinium)....I wanted to be the one with color...FH never said anything about the flowers until the final florist appointment where he told me that he hates my Boquet and wants me to have a white one and my girls to have color... Now I know that I've been making 90% of the decisions...but I really don't want white flowers, with a white dress.... I don't want to completely nix his opinion...but I really don't want to give in either... What do you think, is the arguement worth it??
MattandTricia07
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Umm this is a toughy since he has been so good with wedding decisions, but honestly, I just wouldn't be able to give in on this one sorry!
OrangeGrl
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No way, just tell him how it will look with the pictures, and then like kiss him or something... haha I doubt with everything he is going to be THAT concerned with YOUR flowers...or just tell him ok, then on your wedding day when the flowers come, he will be so happy to see how beautiful you look he wont even notice the colored flowers as you walk down the aisle
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Posted by MissMaster13
No way, just tell him how it will look with the pictures, and then like kiss him or something... haha I doubt with everything he is going to be THAT concerned with YOUR flowers...or just tell him ok, then on your wedding day when the flowers come, he will be so happy to see how beautiful you look he wont even notice the colored flowers as you walk down the aisle
HAHAHA....I was thinking about just ordering it without him...but he actually seems pretty set on this one....I just think it's weird....he could care less about the flowers..... Go figure!!
sunflower13
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I couldn't give in...if you have your heart set on it give it some time and hopefully he will see it your way.
kitty1224
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No way thats you bo-k, tell him thats what you want and its you bo-k and your day.
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Well I dont think that you should just order them without telling him. But I mean it is YOUR bouquet....tell him nicely that you REALLY want this and that he can give his opinion when dealing with something else for the wedding...I would def. fight for it!
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What about compromising? Can you have white with accents of color? That's what I'm doing.
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What about compromising? Can you have white with accents of color? That's what I'm doing.
I like that idea....explain why you think you should have some color, if he still doesn't go for it, then compromise...white flowers with a few yellow ones scattered in.
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I think your bo-k, is your bo-k-I am not even showing Fh mine until the day of.
Why don't you show him some bo-k pics and maybe he can pick out some with color that he does like. This way you can compromise. He gets to pick the one he does like and you still get your color.
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No! YOu should definitely NOT give in...The flowers in your boquet is not a decision that effects him at all. As a bride you have a vision of what you want to look like...your dress, hair, makeup, and other accessories...that includes flowers. If you have known that you didn't want to carry all white flowers, then don't...This is part of your look. Let fh have input on other flowers, get the ones that you've envisioned for yourself and your bridesmaids..
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Maybe for the bm gives in but definitely not for your bo-k, to me that would be like having him pick your dress. your bo-k reflects you and your personal style, so i would have to say dont give in on this one
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hmmmm tough one. in the end is he really going to care about flowers? I think you should tell him you really want to go with what you want. flowers are the only thing my FH has given me carte blanche on
good luck!
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Posted by MichLiz213
What about compromising? Can you have white with accents of color? That's what I'm doing.
I like that idea....explain why you think you should have some color, if he still doesn't go for it, then compromise...white flowers with a few yellow ones scattered in.
Agreed - try a few new arrangements. You may even love them more, but if at the end of the day you love yours I say keep them. He's not the one carrying them.
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Posted by shelby34
Posted by MichLiz213
What about compromising? Can you have white with accents of color? That's what I'm doing.
I like that idea....explain why you think you should have some color, if he still doesn't go for it, then compromise...white flowers with a few yellow ones scattered in.
Agreed - try a few new arrangements. You may even love them more, but if at the end of the day you love yours I say keep them. He's not the one carrying them.
Definetly agree with trying to compromise. Why is he so into you having white flowers. show him pictures of brides with colorful flowers and maybe both of you can pick out a bok that you both like. I hope it works out.
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Can you mix some white flowers in? I;m haing a white bok with some pink roses and blue delphinium mixed in.
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What about compromising? Can you have white with accents of color? That's what I'm doing.
Same here...
BUT I think your FH will NOT even LOOK at your bo-k the day of the wedding!!! He'll have his eyes on YOU all day
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I think that your bo-K should be your decision, it's like part of the outfit. He didn't have a say in what dress you chose so I don't think he should have a say in waht bo-k you want to carry around. It's basically like an accesory to your dress, like jewelry.
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I will probably get a lot of crap for this, but I would get the white one (though I too didn't want white) or reach a decision together. Only because your wedding day is about entering into a marriage - which includes compromise and doing things to make each other happy. And when it is all said and done, are flowers worth it if he really feels that strongly and has let you make all the other decisions?
