okay so heres the story...my Mom (who never really gave me anything in life other than life) has not helped me one bit with my wedding. She was supose to pay for my wedding cake, and she's not even going to do that (my grandmother is going to pay for the cake)...she was supose to pay for my sister (who is a Jr. BM) dress and I ended up pay for that. Her cousin is the one paying for and hosting my bridal shower (with no help from my mom). So my mom has not done anything to help me with the wedding . So now i'm wondering if she should even be mentioned in the program at all ...i mean she hasen't contributed in anyway, and shows no intrest in the fact that her eldest daughater is getting married in less than a month. Should i leave her out of the program, or would that be consided the worst thing ever???
magbride
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First off, I'm so sorry that's she disappointed you so much. Is she walking in the processional? If so, she should be mentioned. If not, it's totally your call. Sorry, wish I could be more help, but I'm not sure what I would do in this situation. I mean you could just list her as the mother of the bride. It's not really giving her any credit towards the wedding, just idenitifying her.
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I am so sorry
I agree with above--if she's walking in the processional, you should put her name in there. Otherwise, it would your call.
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I am so sorry
I agree with above--if she's walking in the processional, you should put her name in there. Otherwise, it would your call.
okay, i see what you mean....but in that case, i would list her after my FH's parents and right before the bridesmaids...so it would be FH's parents, my grandmother and then her (her name would NOT be the first in the program)
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I'm sorry you are dealing with this and feeling this way.
We have a similar situation with FHs father. I don't care so much about him not having contributed to the wedding - the wedding is ours, not his so I don't expect anyone else to contribute. BUT he hasn't been the best father to his children, about 15 years ago he gave up on life, stopped working and expected FMIL to take care of the family, he became abusive and FMIL finally kicked him out. Since then he has been working odd jobs, run away with the carnival, sleeps on peoples floors until they throw him out...etc...
We still aren't sure if he will be at the wedding, it changes everyday about if he can get to the area (he has hinted that we buy him a plane ticket, but that's not happening). In the end even if he isn't there, he will be in the program as the father of the groom because that is who he is. FH does have a father even if he doesn't have much respect for him. We decided rather than cause some drama about why he isn't there (no one else needs to know about the tension between FH and his father) we would list him simply and without explanation.
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Im soooo SOrry I feel bad that she isnt there for you .. & after the wedding is over and done with I would tell her how you feel!!! & I agree if she is walking maybe she should be mentioned..
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Posted by Nina_m74
I'm sorry you are dealing with this and feeling this way.
We have a similar situation with FHs father. I don't care so much about him not having contributed to the wedding - the wedding is ours, not his so I don't expect anyone else to contribute. BUT he hasn't been the best father to his children, about 15 years ago he gave up on life, stopped working and expected FMIL to take care of the family, he became abusive and FMIL finally kicked him out. Since then he has been working odd jobs, run away with the carnival, sleeps on peoples floors until they throw him out...etc...
We still aren't sure if he will be at the wedding, it changes everyday about if he can get to the area (he has hinted that we buy him a plane ticket, but that's not happening). In the end even if he isn't there, he will be in the program as the father of the groom because that is who he is. FH does have a father even if he doesn't have much respect for him. We decided rather than cause some drama about why he isn't there (no one else needs to know about the tension between FH and his father) we would list him simply and without explanation.
wow, thank you so much for that....it actually makes sense to me...so she will be listed just has mother of the bride (just because she is my mother...no other reason)
Nina_m74
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I'm glad it helped I am sorry that it's even an issue though
MF9282
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I am sorry she has been so cold and basically a huge disapointment to you
Go wih your gut. Whatever makes you happier do re: the programs.
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I totally know what you are going through. My father almost got away with not paying for my honeymoon like he promised but thanks to my mom nagging him into submission he forked some money over. Not to mention that FH Father is not coming to the wedding not has he ever had any interest in his sons life. We are going to put his name in the program just because of blood and nothing more.
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Posted by rkl1130
I am so sorry
I agree with above--if she's walking in the processional, you should put her name in there. Otherwise, it would your call.
okay, i see what you mean....but in that case, i would list her after my FH's parents and right before the bridesmaids...so it would be FH's parents, my grandmother and then her (her name would NOT be the first in the program)
If she is going to be in the processional that is how she should be listed. After your grandmother and before bridesmaids.
