My fiance and I already have two childern. One will be four next week and the other is three months old. We're getting married in April and we want to take the boys with us on our honeymoon at least for a few days. Our family and friends are trying to talk us out of it, but we wanted to spend a few days alone as a new family. We live in upstate NY and we are honeymooning in the Poconos (I think), we were going to spend the first 5 days alone then drive home to pick up the kids and bring them back for the next 3 days.
Is this a bad idea? Have you heard of other couples taking thier childern with them before? If so, do you know of any resorts or destinations that welcome honeymooning couples as well as childern?
Thanks
msnora
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I dont think it is a bad idea as long as you do take the first part of the honeymoom to spend to gether without the kids...... I think it will make them feel special that you wanted them to be apart ofthe honeymoon also. There are lots of fun family things to do up in the poconos too!
Junebride3
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I don't think it is a bad idea. I would do a mini hm with the kids and then a hm with just you and husband. Have you decided where you would like to go??
AprilBride2006
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We were going to stay at Ceasars in the poconos. But I don't think they allow childern there. There was a hotel we stayed at out there a few years ago, but I don't remember the name. Our youngest son will only be five months old when we go, so wherever we stay needs to be kid/baby friendly. Anyone got any ideas?
msnora
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There are parts of the poconos that does allow children so you may have to stay in two different locations of it........
lipglossjunky73
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Wow - FH has 2 kids - there is NO way I would want to go on a HM with them!!! I love them to pieces, but the HM is all about getting bizay....
AprilBride2006
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Posted by lipglossjunky73
Wow - FH has 2 kids - there is NO way I would want to go on a HM with them!!! I love them to pieces, but the HM is all about getting bizay....
that's what everyone keeps telling me
johnsae
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Posted by AprilBride2006
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Wow - FH has 2 kids - there is NO way I would want to go on a HM with them!!! I love them to pieces, but the HM is all about getting bizay....
that's what everyone keeps telling me
this may be the only time you have without the kids - I would embrace that.
BJandDan
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Posted by msnora I think it will make them feel special that you wanted them to be apart ofthe honeymoon also. QUOTE]
They are only 4 and less than one. They won't get what a HM is. I disagree, keep them at home, you have the rest of your lives with them. The HM is just for you too, as newlyweds.
smara
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Although it is sweet and I can see why you would want to do this. I think you should enjoy it with your FH. Plus you will have the rest of you rlives to go on family vacations or atleast until the kids are 18.
But if you are going to be totally miserable and guilty for not taking them than you should stick with what you originally planned and share those 3 days with them.
2006FutureMrsM
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FH and I also have a son together and we are absolutely taking him with us. We couldn't imagine not including him. We're actually thinking about going to europe and just relaxing on a beach somewhere.
Good luck whatever you decide
Laura&Phil
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I think it's sweet and if it'll really bother you to not do this than go for it but you will have plenty of 'new family' alone time and the kids are really little- they won't understand or appreciate it.
I think because you have the kids already and won't get any kid free years at the start of your marriage I'd leave them at home and just enjoy!
Again, I'd understand you missing them too much but to drive all that way back and forth just to pick them up again....it's your call
You can try to stay at Fernwood in the Poconos- they are mostly villas with kitchens, etc tho they have regular rooms too- very kid friendly. My friends and I stay there a lot. You are actually renting a villa so they send you a lease but it's basically the same as a hotel. Good luck!
AprilBride2006
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Posted by 2006FutureMrsM
FH and I also have a son together and we are absolutely taking him with us. We couldn't imagine not including him. We're actually thinking about going to europe and just relaxing on a beach somewhere.
Good luck whatever you decide
Europe is wonderful. I went for the summer three years ago (Italy, Austria, Switzerland and France). What part of Europe are you thinking of going to? How old is your son?
AprilBride2006
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Posted by Laura&Phil You can try to stay at Fernwood in the Poconos- they are mostly villas with kitchens, etc tho they have regular rooms too- very kid friendly. My friends and I stay there a lot. You are actually renting a villa so they send you a lease but it's basically the same as a hotel. Good luck!
Thanks for the tip.
AlliNMatt06
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I personally think you should go alone. You guys need some alone time, especially after just being married. It is up to you though, it is your kids!
It is wonderful to want to include your kids, but there are plenty of years to have family vacations. Trust me, I went on a ton as a child. My parents also went away buy themselves, every once in a while. I think it is healthy for a marrige to be alone with each other, without kids.
I go on vacation with my sister and BIL to florida every year. While its nice to have the kids, boy are they stressed the whole time. All they talk about is going on a vacation alone sometime.
autumn
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It's your honeymoon, you and FH need to spend time as Husband and Wife. Don't feel guilty.
CynthiaandJeff
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Emily!!!
Leave them at home! I understand how you feel - I have an 8 yr old from a previous marriage. This is your time for you and fh. If you feel bad, take a vacation with them in the summer. OR you can make the trip just 5-7 days.
We're going away for 2 weeks and leaving Hannah with her dad :)
clw924
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I think you should enjoy the honeymoon without the children. You need to spend some alone, romantice, quality time together. I'm sure you will miss the children, but in no means wrong for leaving them. Plus, whomever will be watching them will enjoy their time with them. Best of luck..
KandE917
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My sister has a son from a previous marriage...he was 3 and a half when she got remarried and her and her new husband took not only my sister's son...but my parents...to Disney World for a few days for the first part of their honeymoon. My parents then brought my nephew home with them while my sister and her hubby went on to the Ocean Club in the Bahamas for a few days to be alone. She said it was great and she would not have done it any other way - she said she couldn't have imagined not having her son with her for a few days.
It's totally up to the couple - whatever is best for you guys just do it and don't listen to what everyone else is telling you!!!
franksgirl323
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It's really up to you. But you live with the kids every single day....when will you ever get the chance to go away alone without them?
I agree with whoever suggested taking a summer vacation with them or some other time. JMO
