Shower Date - Should the Bride Know?

I have heard so many stories from friends where someone ruined the surprise. I am sure she didn't realize though. I think it is traditional to keep it a surprise. With almost everyone coming in from out of town for mine - my Mom just asked me if I wanted it to be a surprise. When I said no I didn't care - she was like "Thank God!!!" - because it would be very difficult.

As long as everyone realizes everyone has their own individual opinions and doesn't take everyone's opinion to heart, I think we will all be O.K. I know personally, I appreciate the bad comments as well as the good. People should feel free to express themselves. If they have had bad experiences and are willing to tell us about them to prevent the same mistakes from happening, I for one am willing to listen.

Thankfully, I have encountered nicer staff the past 2 times I was there. Maybe I had previously 'caught them on a bad day'. They also did a wonderful job on my bridesmaids dresses.