Shower Dilemma!

I'm sorry!! This can be so uncomfortable. I think you just need to be honest with the people not invited, and tell them the truth, that you had to keep the list very small due to budget. I had to cut down my shower list as well

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Posted by allegracristina

I'm sorry!! This can be so uncomfortable. I think you just need to be honest with the people not invited, and tell them the truth, that you had to keep the list very small due to budget. I had to cut down my shower list as well

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It's so awkward and i feel so stupid! My list is honestly family and 4 friends! I dont know what to do.

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20

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Posted by allegracristina

I'm sorry!! This can be so uncomfortable. I think you just need to be honest with the people not invited, and tell them the truth, that you had to keep the list very small due to budget. I had to cut down my shower list as well

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It's so awkward and i feel so stupid! My list is honestly family and 4 friends! I dont know what to do.

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I totally agree....I had no choice. I just had to do it.

No I wouldnt, maybe I would say something to the people who at your job were invited and if they talk to that person, they could let them know. Also I think it depends how close are you to that person who said that they never got an invite. You can explain it to her and I think they would understand!

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Posted by coldasice217

You shouldn't feel bad, because technically you're not 'supposed' to know who ultimately gets invited, right? You just supply a list...and then it's up to your mom/BMs/etc. to use that list as they see fit. You can plead ignorance on this one...and if anyone really has the nerve to mention it to you, you can always say that it's a financial hardship for your mother to throw the shower and it's nothing personal.

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I know youre right and it totally is because of finances NOT that I wouldnt want them there. I just don't know what to do..i feel bad for the friend that is invited that they approached too!

sorry to hear - can you have your BM ship in?

My mom is probably going to pay for all of my shower but i am going to tell my BM to be responsible for favors, decorations, invites

I think people will understand. Would they approach you about it or the people planning the shower?

Do you know when/where your shower is already? I bet it would be easier if you dind't know all the details.

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Posted by MirabellaNYC

I think people will understand. Would they approach you about it or the people planning the shower?

Do you know when/where your shower is already? I bet it would be easier if you dind't know all the details.

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i dont know anything. My mom called the women and explained to them that she had to cut the list down a lot and she invited family and then looked at th e list and invited just a few that she knew I saw a lot outside of work. I hope that smooths things over...she was SO trying to help..it was so cute.

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Posted by MrsDrinkh20

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Posted by MirabellaNYC

I think people will understand. Would they approach you about it or the people planning the shower?

Do you know when/where your shower is already? I bet it would be easier if you dind't know all the details.

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i dont know anything. My mom called the women and explained to them that she had to cut the list down a lot and she invited family and then looked at th e list and invited just a few that she knew I saw a lot outside of work. I hope that smooths things over...she was SO trying to help..it was so cute.

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I'm sure it will.
That's why its good you don't know too much!

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Posted by coldasice217

You shouldn't feel bad, because technically you're not 'supposed' to know who ultimately gets invited, right? You just supply a list...and then it's up to your mom/BMs/etc. to use that list as they see fit. You can plead ignorance on this one...and if anyone really has the nerve to mention it to you, you can always say that it's a financial hardship for your mother to throw the shower and it's nothing personal.

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ITA! if you really feel innocent and that girl comes up to you and says something.. you should be like? what are you talking about? what shower? and she will shut up because you arent supposed to know about your shower! lol

Honestly you need to just talk to the lady.

Just say that you heard she was questioning her not being invited to the shower and that the guest list was EXTREMELY limited. Explain the situation to her. I'm sure she would understand. Any reasonable person should understand.

I had the same problem with our Engagement party. I had a very intense limit on the number of guests I could invite. And FH cousins weren't invited. It was immediate families, super close life long friends and the bridal party only. His one cousin was talking smack in the bar on night to other people. I found out about it... and went out of my way to explain to his brother (I never really saw him in the bar after that) why they weren't invited. He was more than understanding about it. And it put an end to the rumors that were going around about how I didn't want FH family members to be there and this and that. It was starting to get ugly. They even started making comments about 'well I hope I'm at least invited to the wedding, blah blah blah'.

Most often with these scenarios... honestly is the best! Just be upfront and explain things. If you have a good reason for something then they should totally understand. And if they don't well that's their close minded fault!

Personally I wouldn't mind not being invited to a shower... that's less money for me to spend. Ha ha.. since wedding planning, i'm becoming more of a cheapo where I was once an extravagant spender!