Shower Drama- I'm so tired of this

So in a random e-mail my FMIL asked if she should stay in the same hotel when she visits as August as she will for the wedding. Well I had not known about any plans for them coming up in August and I realized that she was talking about the shower.

Well she didnt give a date or weekend so I wasn't really upset and I let my sister (MOH) know. Well my sister was furious. She is convinced that FMIL did it on purpose and she has been furious for two days now. Well yesterday she calls and is like I can't do this anymore. 'You're shower is August 10, it's in my building, pick out an outfit'.

Now EVERYTHING is out of the bag! She bascially yelled at me on the phone for half an hour. I'm not entirely sure what I did wrong but I think she's mad that I wasn't more mad about finding out the month. I figured it was going to be in August. Other people kept dropping hints. Now she's pissed and I can't believe I'm fighting about my bridal shower. I don't know what's going on but she is acting like she hates FH and his family.

I sat and cried all last night. This stress is really getting to me.


Sorry this got kinda long!

that *****! i am so sorry she took her frustrations out on you, that really wasn't fair. please don't stress, you will have a wonderful shower no matter what! maybe after she cools down in a couple of days you could talk to her and let her know how much she upset you - she may not even realize how much you wanted to be surprised.

so sorry about the shower drama. maybe there have been a lot of things going on behind the scenes stressing your MOH out. but that's not reason for her to totally ruin the surprise for you.

i would let her know that you appreciate her doing what she can for you, but that you don't understand why she felt the need to snap and just tell you about it....what was the purpose of that!?!

i hope this all gets resolved for you!

That really wasn't fair of her. I can understand her being disappointed, but she needs to let it go.

I'd give her a day or two to calm down and then tell her that her actions really upset you, there was no need to yell at you for her own disappointment.

I'm sure your shower will be wonderful!

OH- That is just terrible......I am so sorry!!!!!!!!

yikes! im so sorry you have to deal with this. like you, im dealing w/ finding out about behind the scenes stuff and its really frustrating. i hope this all gets worked out very soon.

ETA: who told you the exact date, maybe i read wrong but i thought it was your sister, not your FMIL?

Oh boy.
Sorry that you have to go thru this.

---

Posted by Aug07OFCbride

yikes! im so sorry you have to deal with this. like you, im dealing w/ finding out about behind the scenes stuff and its really frustrating. i hope this all gets worked out very soon.

ETA: who told you the exact date, maybe i read wrong but i thought it was your sister, not your FMIL?

---

Sorry- to be clear.

My FMIL basically told me that my shower would be in August by saying she would be coming up in August.

My sister mad last night, told me the date and place intentionally b/c she felt the surprise was ruined.

Uugghh.. I am so sorry that this happened.

I'm so sorry!!!! I can't believe your sister did that!!! You didn't do anything wrong, but why did she feel the need to tell you the DATE AND PLACE???? Wow, that sucksss