Shower Etiquette Question

I have a cousin who I saw a lot when I was younger but I really haven't seen him in years. He is getting married over the summer, which I do plan on going to.

My mom and I just got an invitation to his fiance's shower. I have never met this girl in my life, and I can't even remember off the top of my head what her name is. I told my mom I don't want to go to the shower and she flipped out and was like 'what do you mean you don't want to go.. you have to go.. how would you feel if they don't go to yours.. etc etc.'

Honestly, when it comes time for my shower, I don't want people there who I've never met before in my life. I feel like its suppose to be more close family members and friends.

Is it wrong that I don't want to go? What do you girls think?

its not wrong that you dont want to go. Not every woman who is invited to the wedding is supposed to be invited to the shower.... BUT...

you need to think... and dont take this the wrong way.... is she inviting you because she really wants you there, or because she wants a gift? I was invited to a baby shower and the ONLY reason I was invited was because she wanted a gift from me.

in some cases you may be invited as an honor.. like although she never met you she knows you were/are an important part of her fiances life.

i dunno... i would be in the same boat as you...i wouldnt want to go... but i would send a small gift.

I dont think that its 'wrong', I'm a sucker and I would probably go- but, I think that you have a good reason not to want to go- if your mom wants you to go however to acompany her, thats another thing- I guess you weren't planning on having this girl invited to yours? I guess if there is nothing else that you have scheduled that day, maybe go- I don't know... it's kinda like at least if you stop by and stay for the food, you did a good deed that day-


wow- I'm reading what I'm writing and I really am a sucker

i think you should prob suck it up and go.... just because it may come back to bite ya in the asss down the road...