Shower help!!

I'm pretty sure my mom has asked my BMs to spend a lot on my shower. She really doesn't have much money, and doesn't talk to my dad and has too much pride to ask him to help (she's pretty stubborn). What should I do guys? I told my MOH to please tell me if it's too much money for them b/c i don't want them spending much money on this and i'll give them money if they need it. I'm just worried that they are all spending WAAAY too much $$!!!!

Anyone run into a situation like this? TIA

I have one person in my 'bridal party', my MOH.
My mother, and my MOH are throwing my shower, with the help of my MIL. So I am buying the prizes for the games we are doing. I don't know where it is, my mother told my MIL to find a place, since she (my mother) lives in Queens, and we're on LI.
I did the invite list, and my MIL added a lot of people, and I complained to my FH that my mother is not made of money, like his parents are. I was not happy about inviting people I hardly know to my shower.
mini vent here, sorry!

for most of the bridal showers i have thrown and have attended, the bridal party usually throws the shower and I know for my bridal shower my bridal party will be throwing it for me (with my mom's and my FMIL's help). The reason being, neither my mom nor my FMIL can pay for an entire bridal shower for 30 women and I wouldn't want them to. There are so many other things she is helping to pay for so the shower should not be on her list. Plus splitting the cost of a shower between 4-5 bridesmaids will lessen the burden of the overall cost.


If you worried about the overall cost, you can do something small like suggest having your shower at a friend's house and having some family member bring over food or maybe do a picnic or backyard bbq.

Good luck

My mom and MOH split mine (about $325 each including invites)

I did the favors and prizes

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Posted by IrishAli

My mom and MOH split mine (about $325 each including invites)

I did the favors and prizes

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didn't you think that was too much? i feel like my bms are paying about the same...

Maybe they could do a BBQ kind of thing? In someone's backyard?

My FMIL offered to do thirds, but they wanted to pay more and not have to listen to her

I actually think they paid less....and if I had a bridal party, they would have chipped in and everyone would have paid less. I think up to $150 pp is all I would consider. No more thn that....mom and sis ultimately paid $275 each at the place and then whatever else they did- invites, etc