Recently my BP asked me to form a list of people I would like to attend my shower.. so I had my mom call my FMIL and tellher the same.. She invited like 7 kids! THe only child I want there is the FG and that's it.. It's not a childrens event for peoplet o just not watch their children ( which a few of them are like this).... So i just forwarded the list to my mom with an attachment from me.. that stated I do not want children there. She invited all kids that range from age 6 months- 7 years old! NO WAY.. Am I being ridiculous..a nd who should address this.. i was thinking my mom LOL!
truelove5803
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NO you are definately not being rediculous....especially with some presents you may open children shouldn't be there. I would have you mother definately step in and not invite thm. Remember...you are the bride, and what you say goes!
Julybride08
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I would just tell your FMIL that you don't want any children there at all. And see what happeneds. She will probably say ok. Some people don't realize.
jonsgirl04
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Not at all! I completely understand. Yeah I would prob have my mom call and say sorry no kids. It becomes expensive and I know in my family the kids get crazy running around! LOL.
kimandvin
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I know.... But it;s hard becuase she already pulled something similar to this on our Engagement party.. Its just frustrating.. It's not a gathering for children anyways.. I dont want kids crying thru the whole thing and they are all so small that they are going to be running around dancing and acting like 'kids' I work with children every day as a special teacher.. i don't want to feel like THey are ruining my shower.. ERRRR just very frustrating!!!! So maybe my mom can call her when she is ready to do the invitations and tell her that Kim has requested there are no children at the shower.. this way there is not fighting between my mom and FMIL.... Becuase Like you said I am the bride.. This can be my Bridezilla moment if htats even considered to be one!
kimandvin
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Well unfortunately she iwll not just say no.. and I will be pissed off if she tells her side of the family that kids can be there even after my mom addresses this.. this has happened before!! She just does what she wants!! ERRRRRRR!!
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Definitely not! They are way to young to be at a shower. They will have know idea what is going on and be running all over the place.
Ms Sawney
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you are not ridiculous at a friends of mines bridal shower we were playing adult games and had to figure out away to occupy the kids so that they would not know what the adults were doing so I think you are correct
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how annoying!! I know what you mean, we decided to have an 'adults only' affair for the wedding and it seems like everyone has an excuse why their kids should be invited....i'm sorry but this is not a 'KID' event! I totally sympathize with you.
Can you have your MOH do your dirty work for you?? I usually stick my MOH with stuff like that HAHA. It depends who's throwing the shower but can't they step in for you and say it in a way that is not 'directly coming from you'?
OR.....'seeing as how this is a Bridal Shower, there will be alot of items that are not exactly KID FRIENDLY so leave the brats at home'?!?
I know this isn't funny, what is wrong with people!
kimandvin
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i THINK I WILL stick with my mom.. Just becuase my sister is the MOH and she is kind of soft spoken but I knojw my mom won't have a problem with it... Its just ridiculous how I am the friggin bride and seem to have the least say in it. My mom and mOH are throwing hte shower and My FMIL might be helping wiht some expenses... but if she doesn;t its not a big deal.. hopefully she wont be like' if i dont get my way then im not paying:: but if that's the case then Oh well.. It just bothers me.. showers were never about having kids come.. Its just annoying.. i know the families that have children won't think anything of it if the invitation just says there name. for crying out loud its a Bridal Shower not a Birthday Party.. so the only child being invited will be my FG-neice. that;'s it!!! And she is on my FH side of hte family! AHHHHH!
