Shower - People suck! My first LIW vent

My shower is a surprise so I don't know anything going on and my mom has been dying to keep all her little secrets because it's usually her and I planning events. Anyway, tonight she came home and had a smirk on her face about the shower. Not a good smirk. So i inquired (without finding out dates) and she was so appalled by the number of people on FH side responding NO. These aren't just any guests but his aunts and cousins wives. I don't blame a few of them because they are older and wont travel unless its a wedding or one of the aunts husband is really sick but some of them have NO GOOD REASON!!!!! on top of it 2 of his cousins that he gre up with haven't responded yet! He grew up with them and they didn't even show up to the engagement party last minute when they had RSVP'ed yes so it wouldn't surprise me if they did the same thing here.

I feel really bad for FH. My mom told me that she mentioned to him today that so and so aren't coming or she hasn't heard from them and he looked sad and asked why and she had no reason. I cant wait until she tells FMIL this - there is going to be serious beef!

Anyway, I just feel bad for my mom cause she planned the shower around the in laws (they were having a family reunion in October) or I would have had the shower already and she said she would have done a lot of different things. Then I feel bad for FH because so many of his family members are flaking! This is for him too - not just for me!

OOPS - Didn't realize how long this got. Thank's for reading and letting me vent. Cant really talk to anyone else about it - don't want to make my mom or FH feel any worse.

Good Night Ladies!

my cousin at her shower didn't have any ppl from her DH's side. Her mom was shocked! My aunt asked cousin's MIL to give her a guest list, so she says oh they won't be interested'
my cousin was just devastated, but in the end it really didn't matter b/c her party was AMAZING! One of the funnest parties in general I went to. So what really mattered is people that REALLY cared were there.
Who needs all those nay sayers?
Just be happy that your side is great.

Yup...people do s*ck...but unfortunately we have to realize our weddings are not everyone else's top priority.

omgg i TOTTTTTTTALLLLLLLLLLY know what youre going through!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! fhs mom gave me her wedding list.. which was like 15 people..im happy it wasnt 100 people. but 15 is fineeeeee. i know they dont have much family so its cool.

i invited the women to my shower
AALLLLLLLLL but 2 DECLINED!!!!!!!fhs godmother. aunts etc allllllllllllll declined. fh could care less.. but im like woww thats a lil harsh.

we are wayyyyy over our minimum, we're almost at max capacity but its still saddens me how they declined. yet the only ppl on my side that declined were just 2 relatives who i barely know from out of state... but they sent gifts lolol



those who want to be there, will make it. i wouldnt bring it up to fh that much so he doesnt get upset....not sure how sensitive ur guy is.

you mom has to turn around to your MIL and tell her straight out this is for our kids!! you need to get on the phone and HOUND your family because it is important for them to be there for the kids!!!

And your FH has to step on mommies toes a little to get her ampt up and moving on it!


sometimes in laws stink lol

Thanks ladies!

You are all right!! I will enjoy the day regardless of who is there! I am going to have my mom speak to his and see what the deal is - after all they are all FMIL's sisters and in-laws that aren't coming.

Moral of the story: Never underestimate people & Smile!

Omg this is what happend to me!!!!!!!!!!!!

My mom gave my FMIL 25 people to invite you know how many people showed up 7 PEOPLE!!!
She didnt warn my mom or sister which really irked me bc you know you need to meet a min at halls.

I fought with my FH forever about it and I am still pissed about(The inner child in me)

Wait ladies:The best part is when it comes time to wedding!! His mother kept saying well they dont come to the shower but they will come for the wedding... WELL all those people who said NO for the shower 75% arent coming, and this is his close family.

oh well now you all know when you have another party be prepared for the NOs

Iam so glad I am not the only one!

I'm sorry

but don't feel too bad, you'll be surrounded by the people who love and care about you