Shower Question

Fh and I are having a really small wedding - we are both from HUGE families so we are inviting through Aunts/Uncles and close friends.

Some of my cousins have been calling my mom, saying they understand that we are having a small wedding, but will we be inviting everyone (meaning through cousins) to the shower so they can celebrate with us?

I think it's wonderful that they want to come to the shower, but I feel wierd having my Mother invite people who won't be at the wedding - what do you guys think?

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Posted by Nina_m74

Fh and I are having a really small wedding - we are both from HUGE families so we are inviting through Aunts/Uncles and close friends.

Some of my cousins have been calling my mom, saying they understand that we are having a small wedding, but will we be inviting everyone (meaning through cousins) to the shower so they can celebrate with us?

I think it's wonderful that they want to come to the shower, but I feel wierd having my Mother invite people who won't be at the wedding - what do you guys think?

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I think that it is okay as long as they know beforehand that they will not be invited to the wedding.

that is what my fmil did for my shower, i begged her not to invite people that can't be invited to the wedding, FH has 79 cousins!!! i feel so bad that not everyone can be included but we had to draw the line somewhere ( that line being 270 people!!)......they invited about 10 people that aren't coming to the wedding but promised me she told them and they totally understood.
i felt a little weird at the shower talking about the wedding, but they said they had a great time and didn't mind at all
as long as they are aware of this before the shower understand it should be fine

however...if it was me doing the inviting for someone else's shower i don't think i could do it :(

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Posted by Nina_m74

Fh and I are having a really small wedding - we are both from HUGE families so we are inviting through Aunts/Uncles and close friends.

Some of my cousins have been calling my mom, saying they understand that we are having a small wedding, but will we be inviting everyone (meaning through cousins) to the shower so they can celebrate with us?

I think it's wonderful that they want to come to the shower, but I feel wierd having my Mother invite people who won't be at the wedding - what do you guys think?

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I don't know. I know you are only supposed to invite people to the shower that will be invited to the wedding. But if they are asking to be invited to the shower then I guess it would be ok.... I just think I would still feel funny getting presents from them for a shower and knowing that they aren't invited to the wedding. I don't know that is a hard one.

Its a hard one but I think if they understand that they are not being invited to the wedding and still want 2 celebrate with you Y not??

I have 2 b honest I would feel awkward though