Shower question...

bride2b57 Posted: Sep 28, 2009 09:01 PM

Shower question...

How involved are you in planning your shower? Are you keeping it traditional with a surprise or are you planning it yourself?

I am in a sticky spot and feeling some stress. My younger sister is my maid of honor. Before asking her, I had talked to my bridesmaids and had asked them if they would mind helping her out if she needs it (ie...expenses and planning) its a lot for a young person to take on. Anyway, my sister recently came to me (and maybe she shouldnt have) saying that a few of my bm's are giving her a hard time. She asked for a small amount of money (and let me tell you its small) to contribute and 2 of the girls said NO due to other financial stressors. I am really upset and hurt that they won't contribute and are putting my sister through this unnecessary stress, especially, when I have gone above and beyond for these individuals in the past. II know money can be tight but its a small amount and they shouldnt have taken on the responsibility if they felt it was out of reach. I am not suppose to know all this drama is going on because it is somewhat of a surprise. Now, I am secretly upset with these girls!!! What would you do, if you were in my positioN???

Jna2010 Posted: Sep 28, 2009 09:04 PM

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im helping my mom research all the places but ultimately i wont know what she books or for when so its will be a surprise

i would really confront them, thats ridiculous, you already gave them a heads up when they agreed to be your bm's, if its a reasonable amount like you said i dont see a good reason why they should tell her flat out no?!

Lsorrent Posted: Sep 28, 2009 09:05 PM

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I'm being surprised. I gave my mom a guest list and that's the extent of it.

mosh424 Posted: Sep 28, 2009 09:06 PM

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I am fairly involved, I picked the place, and centerpieces and I know the date. other then that I am staying out of it

RitasEngaged Posted: Sep 28, 2009 09:33 PM

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I know about it - i was involved at first but they told me to mind my own business - somethings though i wish i didn't know about

MrsH37 Posted: Sep 28, 2009 09:33 PM

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i'm not involved at all. My mom wants it to be a complete surprise. I don't know when it is or where it is, etc. My mom said that she doesn't want me to think about it that she will take care of it. Good thing I trust my mom.

T E R I Posted: Sep 28, 2009 09:35 PM

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I am very involved in the shower process, if I wasn't then I wouldn't be having one

rdubs Posted: Sep 29, 2009 12:03 AM

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Unfortunately I had to be very involved because of picking the date and picking a place!

I just don't want to know the details of what we'll be doing at my shower!

SoonToBMrsC Posted: Sep 29, 2009 12:05 AM

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I'm being totally suprised, my mom and sis already booked the place but I know nothing at all about it....they are very good at keeping this secret thing going, lol.

mbscheer Posted: Sep 29, 2009 12:12 AM

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I am being surprised (hopefully)... But I am actually getting really worried that there may not be one. My MOH (my sister) and I have not spoken in 3 months. My other MOH I don't think has planned anything. I am getting really upset about it.

My advice (which I know its hard to do because I am having trouble) is talk to the girls non-chalantly about the shower. Just how excited you are and see if they say anything. If you bottle it up its just going to make the day less fun for you.

Good luck