Shower Stress!

I don't mean to sound ungrateful, but my MOH and one of my BMs are driving me CRAZY about my shower. ALL I asked was to be surprised. I have a million and one details to worry about for the wedding, my job has been insane (though finally calming down now, fortunately) and FH and I have had MAJOR family issues involving hospitalizations AND legal matters. I just DON'T need something else on my plate. I *don't* need to be asked about the venue, the guest list, the date and even the flavor of the favors!!! ESPECIALLY when they ask me and then disregard my opinion 80% of the time anyway!!!



The same thing happened for my bachelorette party. I love my girls, and I understand they're just trying to give me what I want, but these same girls have planned SURPRISE showers/parties for other people. WHY can't they respect the fact that I just don't need more minutiae to stress over right now???