since we're venting...

i have this...person...whom i was considering asking to be my BM. well...when i got engaged i called her to tell her and she was all lackadaisical like 'oh, yeah thats real great' but like if u could only hear her tone of voice...she didn't sound happy for me at all.

so i bought a few bridal magazines and as i'm going through them she asks if she can see them so i said sure. well she starts taking pages out of the magazine going 'oooo i want this for my wedding...' mind you she's not engaged. a week or so later she starts talking about how she's 'planning' a cruise boat wedding...well...mind you ...she's STILL not engaged and hadn't even mentioned these plans to her bf.

the other day she says to me 'i saw your wedding website, its real nice...I'm planning to get married this december or january' and there is still no ring on her finger

i honestly feel like she's trying to rush to get married before me because she's jealous and I'm hurt and surprised by it bc like i said...i was considering her to be a BM for my wedding. of all people i would never have expected this from her.

ugh

People do that... i don't know why... but they do. I myself have one of those girls in my life... and let me tell ya... it drives me crazy.

We're all happy and excited for you!! sorry your friend is kinda sucky right now

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Posted by Soon2beAlberti

i have this...person...whom i was considering asking to be my BM. well...when i got engaged i called her to tell her and she was all lackadaisical like 'oh, yeah thats real great' but like if u could only hear her tone of voice...she didn't sound happy for me at all.

so i bought a few bridal magazines and as i'm going through them she asks if she can see them so i said sure. well she starts taking pages out of the magazine going 'oooo i want this for my wedding...' mind you she's not engaged. a week or so later she starts talking about how she's 'planning' a cruise boat wedding...well...mind you ...she's STILL not engaged and hadn't even mentioned these plans to her bf.

the other day she says to me 'i saw your wedding website, its real nice...I'm planning to get married this december or january' and there is still no ring on her finger

i honestly feel like she's trying to rush to get married before me because she's jealous and I'm hurt and surprised by it bc like i said...i was considering her to be a BM for my wedding. of all people i would never have expected this from her.

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I have to tell you...you are going to find that your friends start acting funny around this time. The best advice I recieved from a married couple was that 'friends' begin to feel either jealous, pushed away, or happy for you. Your true friends will always be happy for you..just remember that. The night I got engaged I saw an immediate difference in friends that I thought would be soo excited. You'll always know who our true friends are when they stick by your side through this whole planning process.

I have a few friends that are going through the 'i'm jealous mode'...I just ignore it and just know you have a great guy your marrying and that is all that matters. Your friends will either come around or they wont...it happens.

Hope that helps...Wow that's the longest I have ever written...

yeah shes def jealous...she wants what u have..u just gotta try to not let her get to u

wow i was worthy of your longest post! thats a pretty big step up! lol

thanks hun. i know and i think its making me sway towards not asking her to be a BM. I don't want anyone whos not genuinely happy for me standing on or near that altar with me

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Posted by Soon2beAlberti

wow i was worthy of your longest post! thats a pretty big step up! lol

thanks hun. i know and i think its making me sway towards not asking her to be a BM. I don't want anyone whos not genuinely happy for me standing on or near that altar with me

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Hey I just realized your in the same RH and room as me! See it was meant!

*I'm glad it helped

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Posted by jennynbri1216

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Posted by Soon2beAlberti

i have this...person...whom i was considering asking to be my BM. well...when i got engaged i called her to tell her and she was all lackadaisical like 'oh, yeah thats real great' but like if u could only hear her tone of voice...she didn't sound happy for me at all.

so i bought a few bridal magazines and as i'm going through them she asks if she can see them so i said sure. well she starts taking pages out of the magazine going 'oooo i want this for my wedding...' mind you she's not engaged. a week or so later she starts talking about how she's 'planning' a cruise boat wedding...well...mind you ...she's STILL not engaged and hadn't even mentioned these plans to her bf.

the other day she says to me 'i saw your wedding website, its real nice...I'm planning to get married this december or january' and there is still no ring on her finger

i honestly feel like she's trying to rush to get married before me because she's jealous and I'm hurt and surprised by it bc like i said...i was considering her to be a BM for my wedding. of all people i would never have expected this from her.

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I have to tell you...you are going to find that your friends start acting funny around this time. The best advice I recieved from a married couple was that 'friends' begin to feel either jealous, pushed away, or happy for you. Your true friends will always be happy for you..just remember that. The night I got engaged I saw an immediate difference in friends that I thought would be soo excited. You'll always know who our true friends are when they stick by your side through this whole planning process.

I have a few friends that are going through the 'i'm jealous mode'...I just ignore it and just know you have a great guy your marrying and that is all that matters. Your friends will either come around or they wont...it happens.

Hope that helps...Wow that's the longest I have ever written...

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I'm sorry that this girl is acting this way towards you, but in times like these i feel you seem to see who your true friends are and those are the ones you want in your life always.

And even though she has not done anything to you besides just get under your skin that too shows you the type of person she is. I would stand clear of her.. and its just my opinion but i wouldnt want someone like her in my BP.

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Posted by jennynbri1216

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Posted by Soon2beAlberti

i have this...person...whom i was considering asking to be my BM. well...when i got engaged i called her to tell her and she was all lackadaisical like 'oh, yeah thats real great' but like if u could only hear her tone of voice...she didn't sound happy for me at all.

so i bought a few bridal magazines and as i'm going through them she asks if she can see them so i said sure. well she starts taking pages out of the magazine going 'oooo i want this for my wedding...' mind you she's not engaged. a week or so later she starts talking about how she's 'planning' a cruise boat wedding...well...mind you ...she's STILL not engaged and hadn't even mentioned these plans to her bf.

the other day she says to me 'i saw your wedding website, its real nice...I'm planning to get married this december or january' and there is still no ring on her finger

i honestly feel like she's trying to rush to get married before me because she's jealous and I'm hurt and surprised by it bc like i said...i was considering her to be a BM for my wedding. of all people i would never have expected this from her.

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I have to tell you...you are going to find that your friends start acting funny around this time. The best advice I recieved from a married couple was that 'friends' begin to feel either jealous, pushed away, or happy for you. Your true friends will always be happy for you..just remember that. The night I got engaged I saw an immediate difference in friends that I thought would be soo excited. You'll always know who our true friends are when they stick by your side through this whole planning process.

I have a few friends that are going through the 'i'm jealous mode'...I just ignore it and just know you have a great guy your marrying and that is all that matters. Your friends will either come around or they wont...it happens.

Hope that helps...Wow that's the longest I have ever written...

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So I was reading your post and it really hit home. Since my FH and I have become engaged, some of our friends have been acting differently around us. It's almost as if they want to avoid us all together. I just thank god that I have such a wonderful family and that they have been really helpful with all of the planning and stuff. I am also lucky that all of my BP is family. It's nice to hear that other people go through this as well and that it isn't just us :)

by any chance is her name maureen? lol she sounds like someone i know lol!


i had a friend like that and she did the smae thing to me but she cooled down wth it. If you really dont feel comfy with her in your wedding then dont ask her

it's AMAZING how many people do that!!

2 people I can think of right off the bat!

WOW she is crazy, she probably really wants what you have., dont let it mess up your friendship.

Just let her be.

I know how you feel. It ***** because they are such a close friend. One of my MOH's just told me the other day that she thinks she will be engaged in the next 6 months and is planning her wedding for next summer. Keep in mind, she just started dating him last month. I think she feels rushed because we used to talk about getting married at the same time and having kids at the same time. So she said to me, I right on schedule, and I laughed, but Im not sure if she is doing this out of love, or because he is the outlet she needs to catch up to me! I love her anyway, but sometimes people surprise me. The biggest thing for me is bringing friends dress shopping that dont have a hidden agenda!