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Sister or SIL MOH-long sorry

Kurtsk8 Posted:

Sister or SIL MOH-long sorry

Okay here it goes-
In a nutshell my whole life has always been about my sister. As most of you know she recently had a baby (i also told you how she called me almost in tears because I hadn't included the baby in the wedding(this was before he was even BORN)). When I moved the date up it winds up being a day after my new nephew's 1st birthday but I didnt think that was a big deal ESPECIALLY being that my sister got engaged & married on my birthday! Well apparently it is, as stupid as it sounds. Anyway back to the reason for this post-my sister and I have always been close, but since she had the baby she has distanced herself and barely talks to me when we used to talk 48738 times a day! She still sees all of her FRIENDS and whatnot, but not me or my SIL. She doesn't really want to be involved in any of my planning and just doesn't care. Now, I was her MOH last year for her wedding and I always just assumed she would be mine. Now for the hard part-My brother's wife and me are like BEST friends, FH and me even bought a condo in their complex just to be close to them! She has been so helpful and SO supportive through everything-she knows my crazy family as well as anyone-and i love her to death! I would love for her to be my MOH, but don't want to cause my drama with my sister and the rest of my family. I would have 2 MOHs but have a really small BP and i thought it would be weird. Would it? Would it really be that terrible if i just asked my SIL? Maybe I should just have two. I don't know. Any suggestions? Sorry for the ridiculously long vent! HELP
Espo22 Posted:

Re: Sister or SIL MOH-long sorry

you could def have two

adamluvsericka Posted:

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I dont think it would be weird to have 2 moh's. but I do think your moh should the person who is closest to you and has been there for you through thick and thin. i think the easy decision is to have 2, but if you dont want to do that I think in your heart you know who you should pick.

Junebride62108 Posted:

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I think it's ok to have two MOH's. If you don't pick your sister, she may flip out and cause unnecessary drama. And it sounds like u and ur SIL are really close and she would be great as a MOgh helping you out with everything. I'm having two as well I wouldnt worry about it being weird. Whatever you decide, try not to stress about it!
Princess Cut Bride Posted:

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IMO the best choice would be to have both your sister and sil. It will save you a lot of trouble...no one would get offended and after all that has happened btw you and your sis she is still your sister and I'm sure she loves you to death!

good luck!
AS Posted:

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I am having both my sisters as MOH's

jgl Posted:

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you could have 2. the only way they would really stick out as being MOH instead of BMs is if you had them wear different dresses from your BMS. if you keep them all the same, who will really know and how would it look silly?

dante31300 Posted:

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I would definitely do two. I made the mistake of choosing one close friend over a friend that I grew up with and even though I wasn't close with her she took it personal and hasn't spoken to me ever again, which hurt at first but I could only imagine the pain it would cause your sister if you didn't include her as MOH even if she is distancing herself right now. In a year she may be back to her old self.

Kimbalina Posted:

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I would go with 2.

angl2001 Posted:

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I have 6 girls in my BP and 2 of them are MOH i think its fine!

jessica08bride Posted:

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i have 2. i know one secretly will do all the work and the other wont, but thats ok. i include them both its just that i know one of them is more of a moh than the other, but i still love them both to death and one is just not good as planning and organizing and stuff.

bemyyoko Posted:

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it wouldnt be weird at all. FH has two best men. his brother and his best friend.

Jamnike Posted:

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I would def ask ur SIL and then talk to your sister about the situation. Im sure shes not doing it on purpose, at least I hope not! But im sure if you guys just talk about it, it will be fine and having 2 MOH is fine if you like, if not, then just go with who you know you can count on to help you the most

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