Small vent about E party....

Mrs Z To Be Posted: Feb 17, 2009 11:51 PM

Small vent about E party....

Sorry girls....I don't want to bore my friends with this, so I will bore my fellow wedding planners with it.

Our e party is Sat. night, 3/14. Fh's second cousin, who he IS NOT close with at all, and who is notorious for bringing their SMALL children (2 years, and six month old) to EVERY party, uninvited, actually called FMIL, to tell her that she was bringing her children to our e party!!! Umm....NO! My own nephews won;t even be there!!!!! Long story short, I guess I'm Pms'ing, and it's ticking me off, because her children are not invited!! does that mean that ALL of my first cousins small children who I'm close with are coming now??? That would be about 100 small children!!! I have a HUGE italian family!! Don't people realize that what is good for the goose is good for the gander???? ugh. Vent over.

Im getting Married Posted: Feb 17, 2009 11:55 PM

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Vent away

Sandradv121 Posted: Feb 17, 2009 11:55 PM

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Oh thats terrible. Simply terrible. I don't like that either. I think you need to tell your FMIL to step in a be stern and say 'Absolutely NOT'. Because, if you don't do it now, than whats not to say she does that for the wedding?

I would normally say you do it, but that ackward. If you're cool with FMIL, than talk to her.

If she does bring her kids, than you and FH need to discuss if she should be invited to the wedding for that reason.

This is the perfect time to let FMIL help out. Talk to her. It can't hurt.

soontobecruz Posted: Feb 17, 2009 11:58 PM

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Sorry to hear about the drama. Just wanted to say we're eparty date twins

Mrs Z To Be Posted: Feb 17, 2009 11:59 PM

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Posted by soontobecruz

Sorry to hear about the drama. Just wanted to say we're eparty date twins

Woo hoo!!

FutureMrsKuehne Posted: Feb 18, 2009 12:05 AM

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ugh...thats aggravating!!

the only reason why im allowing FSIL to bring her baby is because she JUST had her, she will only be amonth and a half, and all of FSIL sisters and mother will be at the party, so shes not comfortable w/leaving the baby w/ anyone else...

otherwise, ID GET ON THAT!!!!!

mosh424 Posted: Feb 18, 2009 05:42 AM

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You should def. explain it to FMIL and have her call the cousin and explain. I hate people when they are rude like this. Read the envelope!!!!! It doesn't say family!!!!

frannygirl75 Posted: Feb 18, 2009 08:26 AM

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omg that would drive me nuts! i understand how u feel. i would nicely say something and just explain that with so many kids there its just hard to keep a watch on everything that is goin on. im sure she would understand. telkl them that its an adult night and hopefully if she were to put herself in your shoe she will understand

KellyGirl 2010 Posted: Feb 18, 2009 08:39 AM

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At least you were not informed a few days ago that since your FH's brother got engaged on valentines day YOU WILL BE SHARING AN ENGAGMENT PARTY!

AHHHH!

I'll take the kids over another bride to be!

AHHHHHH!

rocketsummer17 Posted: Feb 18, 2009 08:57 AM

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Just be happy you got a heads up about it and she didnt just show up with them...THAT would be worse than this...

Have FH talk to his mom and tell her that if she must bring the kids then she doesnt have to come at all...Thats what I would do...

JillandJoe Posted: Feb 18, 2009 08:58 AM

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went away thats what we are here for...put ur foot down. no kids means no kids. I come from as huge italian family too so I know how it is... confront this person!

TheLadyJ Posted: Feb 18, 2009 09:22 AM

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We are going through the same thing with my uncle right now. He wants to come to the shower with his 3 boys. My mom is letting him.

Sometimes you wish parents would understand things like 'adults only', but they don't

Mrs Z To Be Posted: Feb 18, 2009 09:25 AM

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Posted by mosh424

You should def. explain it to FMIL and have her call the cousin and explain. I hate people when they are rude like this. Read the envelope!!!!! It doesn't say family!!!!

EXACTLY!!!!

We already told her no, I just HATE the fact that I feel guilty because of other peoples rudeness!!!

emc282rjm Posted: Feb 18, 2009 10:55 AM

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Posted by Mrs Z To Be

Posted by mosh424

You should def. explain it to FMIL and have her call the cousin and explain. I hate people when they are rude like this. Read the envelope!!!!! It doesn't say family!!!!

EXACTLY!!!!

We already told her no, I just HATE the fact that I feel guilty because of other peoples rudeness!!!

Don't feel guilty. It is your eparty. If you had wanted kids there, you would have invited those closest to you. I think that is the HEIGHT of rudeness. You invited them without kids for a reason. If they had a concern, they should have addressed it with you, not insisted on bringing them.

lori7570 Posted: Feb 18, 2009 11:18 AM

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I think you should put your foot down and not allow her to do it...

Kimbiz1 Posted: Feb 18, 2009 12:07 PM

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I am a firm believer that children DO NOT belong at these functions. However, sometimes you have to pick your battles. I am encouraging everyone to bring their children to the eparty BECAUSE...they WILL NOT be allowed to attend the wedding. The eparty is a casual, get together with lots of food and drinking and dancing but by no means is it as important as our wedding day. This is my compromise. So far even though invites were sent out 'and Family' only the adults will be attending. Now they can't say that I didn't offer.