So i just got the news last night that one of my BM's is pregnant! she's 9 weeks along so at my wedding she will be 7 months. I'm just a little upset because she didn't tell me. Her husband is FH's best man so i found out from him. I spoke to her just last week even and she never mentioned it. She once told me about how bad someones wedding pics looked with a pregnant BM in the line so i guess i'm a little concerened. (I know that must sound aweful of me) The BM dresses have been ordered and she didn't say anything then. I'm just afraid it's gonna come down to the end and she's gonna drop out. Am I over-reacting?? the girls dresses are full A-lines so it may not show. I just feel like i've been lied to. What do you think??
misswitty
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maybe she didn't want to tell you until 12 weeks - when it's usually considered 'safe' to tell family and friends? Did you talk to her about it? I would have an honest discussion with her. Let her know you're happy for her but... what should be done with her dress, etc? See what she says
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I think all will work ourt well she should have told the seamstress
my dresses were ordered in NOV the only single girl (then) is now pregnant and will be 6months day of
honesstly idc her dress was big on her and if it fits it fits just focus on urself and those that are there will make the day that much more special
grkbarbie
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ur weddingis in 7 months... shes over 2 months preggers...which means she would have popped out the baby b4 ur wedding date, no?
fancyface1955
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ur weddingis in 7 months... shes over 2 months preggers...which means she would have popped out the baby b4 ur wedding date, no?
No... my wedding is in 4 months 8/14/09
grkbarbie
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oops im so shot lol
honestly... i wouldnt worry. yea it stinks..but how many pix are u going to frame all over your house with ur bp? lol focus on the big picture. dont sweat the small stuff
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I don't think you were being lied to. Most people don't tell others that they are pregnant until 12 weeks along, so it may have just slipped out early.
If it were me, I'd be HAPPY for her! Forget the dress. Call her, congratulate her, and figure out the details later.
I know you're wedding is super important, but nothing about it has changed for you or FH. Just enjoy it. This is just a minor bump (pun intended!) along the way.
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Maybe you should just ask her if she feels comfortable still being in the wedding...she may not even want to be in it anymore because she doesn't want to be the pregnant bm.
I understand the frustration and concern about pics but what can you do? Maybe approach it as you are concerned for her and her comfort and everything and maybe you can ask someone else to be bm if she wants to back out. Things happen that are out of your control so try not to blow up or stress. This is def. manengable....maybe you can even say I just wanted to make sure you still wanted to be in the wedding because you had said that thing about the pics awhile ago, and throw it in her court to decide what to do.
But honestly....either way I think the pics will be fine...just position her behind the other girls to camo her belly.
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Posted by debzy
I don't think you were being lied to. Most people don't tell others that they are pregnant until 12 weeks along, so it may have just slipped out early.
If it were me, I'd be HAPPY for her! Forget the dress. Call her, congratulate her, and figure out the details later.
I know you're wedding is super important, but nothing about it has changed for you or FH. Just enjoy it. This is just a minor bump (pun intended!) along the way.
Well said ITA!!! I definitely would not be upset about set abou this. Bellys can be camo by flowers and turning a certian way.
Pregnacy is a miracle and I would just be HAPPY for your BM.
Sweetie51804
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she might of not sayed anything to you because people usally wait till 12 weeks to tell people in case something goes wrong. i personal wouldnt be mad,
Nitania13
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I don't think you're being ridiculous. It would be one thing if you were upset that she got pregnant, but you have a right to be upset that she didn't tell you. The only thing I can think of is maybe she wanted to wait until the 2nd trimester to tell evryone?
