So angry with FBIL.. am I wrong?
I'm having major issues with my FBIL...
I'm pretty close to him just because we've been friends for so long even before FH and I got together. In July, the topic of the bachelor party came up and he was like 'Oh well I'm gonna need Dom for two days before the wedding but don't worry, he'll be back in time.' and I was like 'um absolutely not' and I explained to him that the 2 weeks before the wedding were gonna be crazy with so much running around to do and that Christmas & New Years are right before that, so we'd have to do the bachelor & bachelorette parties in the beginning of December. I told him that I couldn't care less what they did for his bachelor party but could he please do it in the beginning of December because after that, it was gonna just be way too hectic. Also if we could do the bachelor & bachelorette parties on the same night because we are very good friends with a couple who live in New Hampshire (they are both in the BP) because they wouldn't be coming down on two separate weekends - its a long drive and it would be so much more convenient if it was the same weekend.
So I asked FBIL for those two restrictions - if he could please work with me and just help me out by choosing a night in the beginning of December and let me know so I can tell my sister that we'll do my bachelorette party on the same night. Also we wanted to choose early so our friends from NH could request from work and be able to actually come. FBIL said that it was fine. From the beginning, I told him that I really didn't care what they did, just as long as he could work with me on those 2 things.
He texts FH today saying that he needs to change the date and that he's sorry but he doesn't need to report to me what they're doing. Ummm W T F ? I never asked him to tell me because I said from the start that I don't care. I said they could have strippers or go gambling or do whatever the hell they wanted. It didn't and still doesn't matter to me. Then he tells FH that he can't say why he is changing the date but that he wanted to do it on November 21st, and I had requested off that whole weekend to celebrate my 21st birthday with FH and our friends since my 21st falls on a Tuesday. FH told him that weekend wouldn't work for him because we were celebrating my birthday, and FBIL was like 'well then I'll have to get back to you' or something.
Am I totally wrong for being so mad about this?? He told me in JULY that it was fine, and our friends from NH requested off as soon as I told them the b-parties would be December 11th. Am I wrong for asking him to make these restrictions ?? Because I don't feel like that's such a horrible request...![]()
And the fact that he out of nowhere threw out the fact of 'I don't have to tell her what we're doing anyway' ... Are you kidding me? I never even said anything about that and I haven't even talked to him recently AT ALL. It just came so out of nowhere and I'm so angry that he's doing this...
I'm pretty close to him just because we've been friends for so long even before FH and I got together. In July, the topic of the bachelor party came up and he was like 'Oh well I'm gonna need Dom for two days before the wedding but don't worry, he'll be back in time.' and I was like 'um absolutely not' and I explained to him that the 2 weeks before the wedding were gonna be crazy with so much running around to do and that Christmas & New Years are right before that, so we'd have to do the bachelor & bachelorette parties in the beginning of December. I told him that I couldn't care less what they did for his bachelor party but could he please do it in the beginning of December because after that, it was gonna just be way too hectic. Also if we could do the bachelor & bachelorette parties on the same night because we are very good friends with a couple who live in New Hampshire (they are both in the BP) because they wouldn't be coming down on two separate weekends - its a long drive and it would be so much more convenient if it was the same weekend.
So I asked FBIL for those two restrictions - if he could please work with me and just help me out by choosing a night in the beginning of December and let me know so I can tell my sister that we'll do my bachelorette party on the same night. Also we wanted to choose early so our friends from NH could request from work and be able to actually come. FBIL said that it was fine. From the beginning, I told him that I really didn't care what they did, just as long as he could work with me on those 2 things.
He texts FH today saying that he needs to change the date and that he's sorry but he doesn't need to report to me what they're doing. Ummm W T F ? I never asked him to tell me because I said from the start that I don't care. I said they could have strippers or go gambling or do whatever the hell they wanted. It didn't and still doesn't matter to me. Then he tells FH that he can't say why he is changing the date but that he wanted to do it on November 21st, and I had requested off that whole weekend to celebrate my 21st birthday with FH and our friends since my 21st falls on a Tuesday. FH told him that weekend wouldn't work for him because we were celebrating my birthday, and FBIL was like 'well then I'll have to get back to you' or something.
Am I totally wrong for being so mad about this?? He told me in JULY that it was fine, and our friends from NH requested off as soon as I told them the b-parties would be December 11th. Am I wrong for asking him to make these restrictions ?? Because I don't feel like that's such a horrible request...
