so depressed...my mom is so negative

Our wedding was beautiful, i loved it, i miss it, and im overall very happy with how it went.

My mom has always been one of my best friends...but lately she's making me so depressed. Anytime I mention anything about the wedding, she has something negaitve to say. When our video came back she complained that she wasnt in it enough, that he should have gotten certain shots, etc. She even went as far as saying 'do you really think you got your moneys worth?'

Today I showed her our proofs -- which DH and I were thrilled with! Well...she complains that she's standing strange in every formal picture, that the photographer didnt give them 'direction' or tell them what to do and 'thats not what a good photographer' does. She complained that some of the pictures were 'weird'....in other words....the artistic shots! She complained that there were too many bridal party shots and not enough family shots, she says that there should have been posed shots for all the tables, etc.

After the wedding she kept complaining about who she never danced with, that the RH didnt announce the cordials in the back, about where she was sitting.

I cant EVER mention the wedding without hearing something bad. I feel horrible. I keep trying to explain that WE like the pictures we got, WE like the candids more than posed shots, we didnt want to have table shots, etc. She just keeps going on about how i say that now but i'm going to 'regret it later in life.' I'm ready to cry!!!! I dont understand why she would keep saying things like that -- she knows how hard its been for me to get over the fact that my wedding is finished. She even has said after complaining about something 'well...i guess it doesnt matter because its over and theres nothing you can do about it now'


Anyone else experiencing anything like this?

thanks for letting me vent girls

You said you're close with your mom, did she help a lot with planning the wedding? I think maybe this is her way of dealing with 'post-wedding depression'. Think about it, we got to plan and have a great day and when all was said and done we went away for a HM. What did mom do? Nothing but return to normal life. So she happened to fixate on some of the negative things, it's what moms do. My mom was disappointed with some things after the wedding too and it made me really upset, don't worry eventually she'll move onto other things and stop harassing you about the pics and video.

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Posted by cindyandkevin

You said you're close with your mom, did she help a lot with planning the wedding? I think maybe this is her way of dealing with 'post-wedding depression'. Think about it, we got to plan and have a great day and when all was said and done we went away for a HM. What did mom do? Nothing but return to normal life. So she happened to fixate on some of the negative things, it's what moms do. My mom was disappointed with some things after the wedding too and it made me really upset, don't worry eventually she'll move onto other things and stop harassing you about the pics and video.

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Thats a good point, Cindy! Maybe its your mom's way of dealing with it... maybe she doesn't realize how bad she is making you feel, have you talked to her about it?
If you are close to her, I think you should tell her how you feel.

oh please - my mother dumped all over EVERYTHING about my wedding. she has said comments that literally have made my mouth drop open.

she has said - the RH was horrible, she was treated like 2nd class citizen, i didnt care about my family, the dj was terrible, the photographers were horrible, venetian hour was ridiculous - the list goes on and on about everything she hated about my wedding. it hurts - but i learned just to not talk to her about it.

she is a great lady - her mouth is just really big.

feel better - all that matters is that YOU loved your wedding - she already had hers.