As many of you know, my one BM has done NOTHING but complain about my wedding to other BMs and MOHs.
She has been on and off with her boyfriend for 10 years. I am paying for the BP's hotel rooms. When I booked them, she was not with this guy for a really long time, so I just booked a room for her.
She got back together with him like a month ago. Today she comments to my MOH, 'It would be really nice if (insert boyfriends name's) room was paid for' in a sarcastic way.
I am SO sick of this girl complaining. Why am I going to pay for a room for someone who might not even be with her? And why is she jumping to conclusions that I wouldn't offer if they were together?
EVERYTHING that I have done has been no good for her. But she never complains to me, only to other people, so I can't even speak up b/c they don't want to get involved.
I am getting so frustrated and mad.
slyman1101
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man that stinks im so sorry you have to deal with this. sounds like you have some serious considering of how good a friend she really is and if you want to keep her as a bm... also, i cant help thinking- why are your other friends all running back to you telling you these things if they know it will upset you? maybe you could ask them to refrain from telling you unnecessary info about this girl unless it's really important? otherwise it will just get you upset and frustrated for no good reason.. good luck and i hope things get better!
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Umm... I don't understand though.... if she has a room and it's paid for... how does he NOT have a room that's paid for? I'm sorry your BP has been so difficult... and you're such a nice person, you don't deserve it. Don't let he take advantage of you or make you feel bad, she has not right
JAAMS
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Posted by JLWSJC
Umm... I don't understand though.... if she has a room and it's paid for... how does he NOT have a room that's paid for? I'm sorry your BP has been so difficult... and you're such a nice person, you don't deserve it. Don't let he take advantage of you or make you feel bad, she has not right
I don't really understand that either. She is sharing a room w/ 2 of her friends...so it's 2 double beds. Someone else could go in there. When I was making reservations, some couples requested private rooms and I still paid for them because they want their own room.
However, she wasn't with him at the time and was fine being with the 2 girls. There are no more rooms left in the bridal party building for her and her bf to get a private room. I guess they can't keep their pants on for two nights.
Im getting Married
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She sounds like a brat..but another note why are your others friends continually telling you what she said..don't they realize it upsets you
Especially if they don't want to get involved by letting you say something to her
FallBride2010
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I think it is VERY generous for you to be paying for rooms. Most brides wouldnt. If her boyfriend wants a room...he should pay for it himself!! Yiou have been generous enough
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Posted by FallBride2010
I think it is VERY generous for you to be paying for rooms. Most brides wouldnt. If her boyfriend wants a room...he should pay for it himself!! Yiou have been generous enough
ita!!!! and yeah, im a little confused as to why he wouldnt be staying in her room but whateva if thats their deal, she definately cant expect you to pay for his room alone. its not even a serious relationship. she sounds ridichoulous
SoontobeGallagher
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I have no problems kicking girls out of my party. I kicked 1 girl out already. She can't be happy for you and shut her pie hole then she doesn't deserve to be your BM. My vote is to kick her out.
Iluvpoodles
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ughh... Just let her complain, show up with her dress on day of and see what happens with your friendship after the wedding..I'm sure you would love to ask her to step down, but unless you want some real drama, I would just let it go...
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looks like no matter what you do she is going to find something to complain about. I would not b surprised if she's jealous of your big day. If u already paid for her room her man can bunk with her or she can cough up the extra it will cost to get a separate room together. It's your day not hers.
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my SIL had a lot of problems with BMs complaining behind her back then the other BMs reporting back to her. it was just a wayy too stressfull process for her and ended soe relationshiops.
u should tell ur BMs to either stick up for you or STFU. u dont need to hear such drama.tell your MOH to talk to her about her 'complaints' then give her carte blanche to kick her out if she feels necessary
BriansWifey
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so she wants u to book a room for her and her on and off bf??? yeahhh... i wouldnt. its nice enough that ure paying for ur bp's rooms, but u dont need to get her another room. for all u know they'll be broken up again come wedding time.
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Wow thats crazy, you need to boot her out of the BP. Honestly if your gettin that mad bout her sayin all that ish then you should confront her. Or tell whoever is feeding you the info to stop telling you or to have her tell this girl to STFU. Sounds like shes jealous. Good luck on whatever choice you make. A good friend would not be doing this to you during your wedding planning
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Posted by FallBride2010
I think it is VERY generous for you to be paying for rooms. Most brides wouldnt. If her boyfriend wants a room...he should pay for it himself!! Yiou have been generous enough
