So, I vented and was told that it was inappropriate...

suven Posted: Jan 02, 2004 10:30 PM

So, I vented and was told that it was inappropriate...

RedHead Posted: Jan 02, 2004 10:33 PM

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I am like you ...when i am upset i talk about it. But i think you should vent with only your close friends/family. You don't want any..in the heat of the moment comments getting back and making your life more stressful.

june262004 Posted: Jan 02, 2004 11:14 PM

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Posted by oct.2004bride

I am like you ...when i am upset i talk about it. But i think you should vent with only your close friends/family. You don't want any..in the heat of the moment comments getting back and making your life more stressful.

I agree. I cant stand my FMIL but... You have to be careful what you say and who u say it too,

sophie78 Posted: Jan 02, 2004 11:19 PM

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I don't think it is a big deal at all unless the BM was you FBIL!!! What is the relationship? Also, who cares if the BM thinks it is inappropriate. Would your FI really care (mine wouldn't)?

KathleenG Posted: Jan 02, 2004 11:23 PM

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Oh my!!! Sometimes I get the same response if I vent about the 'other' family!!! What is weird (from my experience) is that the groom's friends as much as they may agree, will almost automatically side with their family!!! It is almost an overprotective response!!!!

janet Posted: Jan 02, 2004 11:26 PM

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I wish i had the guts sometimes to speak my mind just then maybe my mom would back off a little... but because i am afraid to hurt her feelings and don't want the drama(which trust me she is all about drama) i just sit there and take it.... i usually tell my fh and vent on him but other then that i guess you can say i take after my cats afraidie cat.
hehe! don't worry it's better to vent and let it out then to hold it in like me and have a break down cause of it! keep you head high!

Julybaby Posted: Jan 02, 2004 11:39 PM

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I don't think it was inappropriate. The best man was being a 'guy' and is probably not used to this kind of stuff because men in general do not vent. I don't mean to impose stereotypes on your friend, but from experience I find that guys are a bit uncomfortable when I vent because they want to offer solutions whereas a woman will listen. I got this information from John Gray's Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.

juju Posted: Jan 03, 2004 01:01 AM

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I think he just didn't feel comfortable with what you were saying.

kathleenmarie Posted: Jan 03, 2004 08:38 AM

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well that sounded like a snobbish responce to me. I probably would have responded 'well EXCUSE me', but people do get very defensive of their peeps in times like these. blow it off, youve enough to be concerned about than this guy.

Latina511 Posted: Jan 03, 2004 10:38 AM

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I can completely understand what some of these girls are saying as I went through something similar a week ago. BUT the way I see it he is your BEST MAN, isn't he close enough for you to complain to. Depending who he is but I am assuming he is close to your and your FH. Sometimes you need to vent.