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So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED AGAIN

Original post by bluekat16

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Someone RSVP'd for 3 people when it was only sent to Mr. & Mrs. XYZ.

I'm going to email this person the following, plesae let me know what you think:

Hello M,

I was so happy to recieve your RSVP and delighted that you want to join me and FH in celebrating our wedding.

I noticed that you included 3 in the number attending, however we only reserved two spots for you and your husband. Because on both sides we had to include so many people on our invitation list we're limited to who is invited. Only the number of people listed on the mailed invitation are invited. Couples with children were not invited with their children because of how big our list is. This includes couples coming in from out-of-town. Honestly, nobody except immediate family (only brothers and sisters) are invited with children.

I hope you and your husband can make it, but I'm sorry you can't bring anyone else. Please let me know if I should change you're response to two.

What do you think ladies?

bluekat16 Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related

Ok here's the update.

This is what she wrote back:

'it's ok mamita I understand how ever my husband won't be able to attend he has to work that day and since I don't drive I had asked my aunt and cousin to accompany me they do have a car and I thought it would be better for be to go with them. '

I'm writing back:

'If you want to come with either your aunt or your cousin you can't. I just can't do more than you and another person. I'm sorry

Let meknow know if you want to come with one of them and what their name is.'

jillyb97 Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED

Posted by bluekat16

Ok here's the update.

This is what she wrote back:

'it's ok mamita I understand how ever my husband won't be able to attend he has to work that day and since I don't drive I had asked my aunt and cousin to accompany me they do have a car and I thought it would be better for be to go with them. '

I'm writing back:

'If you want to come with either your aunt or your cousin you can't. I just can't do more than you and another person. I'm sorry

Let meknow know if you want to come with one of them and what their name is.'

just before you send it - do you mean to say 'If you want to come with either your aunt or your cousin you CAN.' ?

Dr Meg Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED

Posted by bluekat16

Ok here's the update.

This is what she wrote back:

'it's ok mamita I understand how ever my husband won't be able to attend he has to work that day and since I don't drive I had asked my aunt and cousin to accompany me they do have a car and I thought it would be better for be to go with them. '

I'm writing back:

'If you want to come with either your aunt or your cousin you can't. I just can't do more than you and another person. I'm sorry

Let meknow know if you want to come with one of them and what their name is.'

I just have to say, people are damn ballsy!!! I can understand inviting someone in his place if your hubby can't come, but to invite TWO other people is just totally rude. Sometimes I think people think that weddings are like backyard BBQs.

bluekat16 Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED

Posted by jillyb97

Posted by bluekat16

Ok here's the update.

This is what she wrote back:

'it's ok mamita I understand how ever my husband won't be able to attend he has to work that day and since I don't drive I had asked my aunt and cousin to accompany me they do have a car and I thought it would be better for be to go with them. '

I'm writing back:

'If you want to come with either your aunt or your cousin you can't. I just can't do more than you and another person. I'm sorry

Let meknow know if you want to come with one of them and what their name is.'

just before you send it - do you mean to say 'If you want to come with either your aunt or your cousin you CAN.' ?

I caught that before I sent it. Maybe it was a freudian slip Thank you!

jillyb97 Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED

Posted by bluekat16

Posted by jillyb97

Posted by bluekat16

Ok here's the update.

This is what she wrote back:

'it's ok mamita I understand how ever my husband won't be able to attend he has to work that day and since I don't drive I had asked my aunt and cousin to accompany me they do have a car and I thought it would be better for be to go with them. '

I'm writing back:

'If you want to come with either your aunt or your cousin you can't. I just can't do more than you and another person. I'm sorry

Let meknow know if you want to come with one of them and what their name is.'

just before you send it - do you mean to say 'If you want to come with either your aunt or your cousin you CAN.' ?

I caught that before I sent it. Maybe it was a freudian slip Thank you!

Haha no problem!!! Good luck with everything!

florezpeeps Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED

I had this happen with one couple that put 3 for their daughter to come with. It annoyed me but I made the room for 3. I think you shouldn't email this, but that's just my personal take.

bluekat16 Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED

Posted by florezpeeps

I had this happen with one couple that put 3 for their daughter to come with. It annoyed me but I made the room for 3. I think you shouldn't email this, but that's just my personal take.

My mom felt the same way and I totally understand it.

However, we just don't have the room and honestly the money to make these exceptions. Plus if I make an exception here I'd have to do it for everyone and our wedding would double in size. Also she was including her aunt and cousin....not even her kids. That's just a bit much. I can see wanting your kids to come..but your aunt and cousin??

florezpeeps Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED

Posted by bluekat16

Posted by florezpeeps

I had this happen with one couple that put 3 for their daughter to come with. It annoyed me but I made the room for 3. I think you shouldn't email this, but that's just my personal take.

My mom felt the same way and I totally understand it.

However, we just don't have the room and honestly the money to make these exceptions. Plus if I make an exception here I'd have to do it for everyone and our wedding would double in size. Also she was including her aunt and cousin....not even her kids. That's just a bit much. I can see wanting your kids to come..but your aunt and cousin??

I understand and it does make sense that if someone finds out you made the exception, they might make a stink, luckily the people I had to make the exception for were isolated, so I totally get your position and the aunt and cousin thing is just weirdddd!

Browneyesncute Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED

I dont feel it was right for her to include that aunt and cousin, she should have only asked one!

agraydc Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED

i hope all goes well, and i think your emails were well worded...good luck!!!

keep us posted on what she says next

sweetdoublenn Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED

Some people are unbelievable...

I think the letter sounds fine to me!

twright5ny Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED

Posted by Dr Meg

Posted by bluekat16

Ok here's the update.

This is what she wrote back:

'it's ok mamita I understand how ever my husband won't be able to attend he has to work that day and since I don't drive I had asked my aunt and cousin to accompany me they do have a car and I thought it would be better for be to go with them. '

I'm writing back:

'If you want to come with either your aunt or your cousin you can't. I just can't do more than you and another person. I'm sorry

Let meknow know if you want to come with one of them and what their name is.'

I just have to say, people are damn ballsy!!! I can understand inviting someone in his place if your hubby can't come, but to invite TWO other people is just totally rude. Sometimes I think people think that weddings are like backyard BBQs.

lol....I used to say the same thing....

you handled it well...if they decide not to come...more money for you to save if they are the only one that do that then you are lucky!

DnY Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED

How annoying! I had something similar happen, through the grapevine I heard my uncle who was invited with his new wife is bringing her 20 year old son who was not invited. It's my dad's brother so I'm letting him deal with it! People are seriously so clueless sometimes!I think your emails were worded perfectly, hope it turns out ok and noone gets their panties in a bunch!

bluekat16 Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED AGAIN

Well everything worked out..she's just coming with her cousin.

Thanks girls!

GinaZ Thread views: 1,321

Re: So it finally happend - RSVP related UPDATED AGAIN

Posted by bluekat16

Ok here's the update.

This is what she wrote back:

'it's ok mamita I understand how ever my husband won't be able to attend he has to work that day and since I don't drive I had asked my aunt and cousin to accompany me they do have a car and I thought it would be better for be to go with them. '

I'm writing back:

'If you want to come with either your aunt or your cousin you can't. I just can't do more than you and another person. I'm sorry

Let meknow know if you want to come with one of them and what their name is.'

wow! No words.