So it starts!!!.....Vent!!

SparklingBride10 Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:20 PM

So it starts!!!.....Vent!!

Thanks!

RedsBride Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:23 PM

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Is he close with his sister because you could have him talk to her about all of this, one on one or the 3 of you could sit down. It is his sister, so in a way you don't want to exclude her but she needs to be told to chill out and back off a bit from what I can see. It's also inappropriate, I think, for her to assume that her own boyfriend would be the bridal party. That is pushing it. HTH and I hope it works out for you. Just try and stay calm about it, it's your day! Not her's! You'll get thru it!

SparklingBride10 Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:26 PM

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Yeah he is pretty close with her. I had no clue until he told me a few days ago so I was kind of taken a back...i told him as of now don't mention anything about the wedding to her.

RedsBride Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:28 PM

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Yea, that would be a surprise...I can see why you are upset. It's a good idea to leave her out of the details and not involve her so much. Maybe then she'll get the point and lay off a bit. Just remember that it is his sister and you don't want to upset him either with how you feel about her involvement...I know first hand!

SparklingBride10 Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:29 PM

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Posted by RedsBride

Yea, that would be a surprise...I can see why you are upset. It's a good idea to leave her out of the details and not involve her so much. Maybe then she'll get the point and lay off a bit. Just remember that it is his sister and you don't want to upset him either with how you feel about her involvement...I know first hand!

Actually he is pissed at her and doesn't like the way she is acting. He bascially told me that he wants her out if it is ok with me.

RedsBride Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:33 PM

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Wow, yea definetely think that over...not saying it's a bad idea but sleep on it and think it over for a little while. It could cause a lot of family tension. How old is she btw? Just curious.

SparklingBride10 Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:37 PM

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Posted by RedsBride

Wow, yea definetely think that over...not saying it's a bad idea but sleep on it and think it over for a little while. It could cause a lot of family tension. How old is she btw? Just curious.

RedsBride Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:39 PM

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Wow, no offense to her but I would expect that kind of behavior from a teenager. She should be old enough and mature enough to hear what you guys think about all this and respect whatever decision you make.

Yankees2323 Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:41 PM

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Posted by RedsBride

Wow, no offense to her but I would expect that kind of behavior from a teenager. She should be old enough and mature enough to hear what you guys think about all this and respect whatever decision you make.

mosh424 Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:50 PM

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Posted by RedsBride

Wow, no offense to her but I would expect that kind of behavior from a teenager. She should be old enough and mature enough to hear what you guys think about all this and respect whatever decision you make.

You said it perfectly!!!!!

grkbarbie Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:53 PM

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make her a SENIOr bridesmaid..and give her a corsage..maybe a sash that states shes a SENIOR birdesmaid..39?? what the................?

SparklingBride10 Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:55 PM

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LMAO!!!

SummerBride10 Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:58 PM

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THat scks. Sorry your having trouble w/ your bridal party. Its kinda weird that his sister want s a coursage?

SparklingBride10 Posted: Sep 29, 2008 06:59 PM

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Yeah when I heard that I was like yeah..ok

RedsBride Posted: Sep 29, 2008 07:00 PM

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Posted by grkbarbie

make her a SENIOr bridesmaid..and give her a corsage..maybe a sash that states shes a SENIOR birdesmaid..39?? what the................?

that is too funny!

grrulz Posted: Sep 29, 2008 07:22 PM

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i think you should have him talk with her first before something worse happens.

SparklingBride10 Posted: Sep 29, 2008 07:25 PM

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Posted by grrulz

i think you should have him talk with her first before something worse happens.

hopefully it doesn't get out of hand.

RitasEngaged Posted: Sep 29, 2008 07:25 PM

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the corsage thing is just bizarre to me I have never seen that.

I wouldn't go for that if she doesn't like it she doesnt have to be in it

CristinanBen2010 Posted: Sep 29, 2008 07:34 PM

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Why a corsage??? She doesnt realize she has no say in what she has and whose in the bridal party. I think if your comfortable with it, speak to her about it,

rocketsummer17 Posted: Sep 29, 2008 07:55 PM

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does she realize she is a bridesmaid and she is not the bride?? so....therefore...her ideas dont really count!!!
And for a woman at her age to be acting like this and for FH telling you to take her out...It may be your best bet to ask her to step out of the bridal party OR FH needs to sit and talk to her and tell her that the behavior is not acceptable and if she wants to have a special part in your day, she will need to shut her face...