My bridal shower is august 6, 2005. My bridal party is doing nothing for me. I am planning this shower with my future mother in law who is paying for the whole thing, with the exception of my moh who gave some money. Now, the shower is in less then two months and guess who is stuck ordering the invitations today to MY OWN BRIDAL SHOWER. I am sooooooooooooo pissed, I feel like nobody gives a **** about me. I also have to order the bingo cards and write out the invitatins when they come in. Good thing I know about the shower or else it would have been a complete disaster. I hate everyone.
kissy27
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I am so sorry you are going through this
Have you confronted your bridal party to find out why they are being no help? I think you should voice your concerns to them! It is a shame that you are counting on these people to do this for you & they are not pulling through for you...
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That is absolutely ridiculous!!!!!!!!!! It is your day you shouldn't have to do all of the work. I thought showers are supposed to be a surprise. That really makes me . That is really wrong. Have you said anything to them about it, or have they mentioned anything to you????? I can understand just how upset you are, I have never heard of such a thing.
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So sorry for you, hun!! I can't believe how rude they're being, it's your shower! You're not even supposed to know about it let alone do the majority of the work. I don't blame you for being mad!!! I'd def let them know how unsupportive they're all being and exactly how they're making you feel!!!
hmpena
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That S.U.C.K.S!!!! You should not have to do this for your own shower! Can you speak to your MOH and ask her for help?
kaklesmay
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Maybe your FMIL can approach the rest of the bridal party and ask for their help.
leighdvm
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I would be furious!!! Tell your FMIL to call on your bridemaids to contribute!!
kellwolfe
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Oh honey thats terrible - and you havent said anything to them ....I would speak up ...
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Posted by kaklesmay
Maybe your FMIL can approach the rest of the bridal party and ask for their help.
I agree...your FMIL or your family (sorry, don't know what the situation is w/your family) should approach the girls.
Traditionally: Usually the bride's mother and the bride's MOH throw the bridal shower.
serendipity0680
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I am so sorry you are going through this. If there is any way I can help please let me know.
glinda_goodwitch
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I'm so sorry this is happening to you. You should talk to your MOH, because it is her job to round up the other BM and keep things organized. You shouldn't have to plan your own shower, even if its not a surprise. Even if your FMIL is paying for everything, your BP should be helping with the little things.
july06bride
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THEY S U C K ! I would tell FMIL to give them jobs and tell them to do them... YOU should Not DO IT yourself
shellnroc
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That is horrible!!!!!! You have every right to be mad and upset. I think it's totally ridiculous that you have to plan your own shower. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I would definitely tell your MOH how you feel about this. Maybe she can talk to your BP. Try not to get too upset!
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blueyes678
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Awwww, sweetie!! I'll help you plan and get your invitations!!! THat's no fair!!! Everything will be alright hun!
EmberLynn
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Have you tried talking to you bridal party? They may not realise what they are doing or not doing. I contacted all my BMs and they told me how busy their lives were with school and work. So I agreed to wait for the summer to have them all meet and start planning parties. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel. Try to work with them. ARe any of them in school? Have childern? Married themsevles or in long term relationships? Work more than 40 hours a week? THey could be overwelmed with stressers in their lives that they may not realise whats going with you. Again call a meeting.
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Posted by blueyes678
Awwww, sweetie!! I'll help you plan and get your invitations!!! THat's no fair!!! Everything will be alright hun!
That is a nice idea! Let us know if you want help finding games or recipes.
OctBride05
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You girls are so great. thank you all All of my bridesmaids are very busy. My moh is working 60 or more hours a week, my other sister has two kids, the other three bm's work like crazy. I know they are busy and fmil told me the last minute she needed invitations and I need to send them out the beginning of next week. So I was stuck doing them. I went to Cathy from follow your heart and I got beautiful inviatations that will delivered to my house on Monday. When i told her they were for my own shower, she told me she's had a couple brides pick out their own shower invites, so that made me feel a little better.
I would really love help from you girls regarding games and where I can get the chair, wishing well and umbrella. I know fmil said were going to play the toilet paper brides gown, but i dont what other games there are, so any help with this shower will be very much appreciated.
marymoon
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Maybe they're no help b/c they didn't expect to te throwing a shower this early? TO be honest it's REALLY early to be having a shower.
OctBride05
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Maybe they're no help b/c they didn't expect to te throwing a shower this early? TO be honest it's REALLY early to be having a shower.
I was originally getting married on oct 23,2005. I had changed the date like 2 months ago and fmil wanted to keep the shower the same day so she wouldnt have to have my shower in the winter months. So, no that isnt a reason why, because they all know why the shower is this early. Besides, I don't think that is a good enough reason for my bridal party to not help plan my shower.
