So sad...Just need to vent

So sad...Just need to vent

Hello ladies...
I am so angry and upset....I am not enjoying my holidays at all. I work yesterday and found out that my coworkers who are so friendly and nice to me in front of me....always complimenting me and tell me what a great person I am to work with and they always like to work with me is talking crap about me....I found out from a friend (she told me that they were saying negative things about me and she doesn't want to be involved in the middle of this...I totally understand) but what should I do? Should I confront these people next time I work with them or just leave it alone and use the silent treatment (don't talk to them at all unless it's work) Tell me what should I do.....We are supposed to be grown up..Why can't they approach me and tell me about it if they have problems with me????. I am not having a good Christmas Eve at all.

Re: So sad...Just need to vent

I'm so sorry! I probably wouldn't say anything, and try not to think about it tomorrow.

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I wouldn't say anything. For starters, if you say something it would betray your source. Second, they're just going to either deny it or cause an issue at work. The conflict (even if you're right) would also make you look like a trouble maker to your superiors and other uninvolved colleagues so that wouldn't help your cause. My advice, just take the moral high road and ignore it. I wouldn't give them the silent treatment b/c that too would be obvious that someone told you what they said, but don't trust them ever again. I'm sure your work speaks for itself. F*** um! Remember, anger is not the opposite emotion of liking someong b/c it shows you have an emotional investment. Indifference is the opposite emotion. Just try not to associate with them, trust them, or rely upon them for anything and steer clear of them. Be friendly & professional when you have to interact with them (again, you don't want to look bad to your superiors), but forwarned is forearmed. Unfortunately, the world is filled with mean, bitter people and they SUCK!! You getting down in the dirt w/them isn't going to change them. All you can do is try and steer clear of them and their toxic ways. HTH!!!

On a brighter note, I hope you and your family have a wonderful holiday season!!!

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oh no hun i am sorry for what is going on with you, with those girls talking craping behind your back.. i think for now just leave it alone and give them the silent treatment and see how they act with you! remember KARMA is lovely if you believe in it and i sure do! it always comes back to those who deserve it and they will get theirs one day! just wait for the good timing to confront them about the **** they have been talking if you really want to confront them! i think its just very new and fresh right now and i would wait for the best time to do it! i love KARMA and trust me, it will happen.. also you know that saying everyone uses KILL THEM WITH YOUR KINDNESS!? well guess what?? that really does work! it eats them up alive.. you are obviously better than them so dont even waste your time on that BS! its soo worthless and you have better things to worry about and stress over.. forget about them, they are obviously not worth it girl! :) hope i helped! good luck with that hun!

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Re: So sad...Just need to vent

Dont say anything to them and dont talk to them anymore. I also wouldnt waste your time being upset and sad about people who mean nothing to you. A lot of people at work have nothing better to do than to talk about other people behind their backs. It happens A LOT!!!! I would only trust a couple of friends.... like 2 or 3 the MOST b/c in a lot of places, people will only act like your friends when in reality they are not. Why are you letting this ruin your holiday? Who cares about them anyway? Just think that they are just talking about you b/c they are prob jealous

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aww im so sorry this happened to u..u know i hate to say this but as ive gotten older ive realized that some people r just rude and selfish and idiots.if it was me i would not say anything because then u get that fake apology and the i didnt mean it and then an act of kindness for the next few weeks that u can totally see through.i would not be rude to them i would say hi and by but no more i would not act like a friend just a person u have to work with.again im so sorry and just keep in mind if they r dumb enough to do something like that u dont need them in ur life anyway..hth

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I'm sorry you are going through this.. Unfortunately there are many ppl in this world like that. Just ignore them and kill them with kindness... It hurts them more!!