So since its slow i'll give you more of my drama LONG

I've told you before that my twin sister (MOH) said shes not coming to the jack and jill party in Ocean City for a laundry list of excuses but bottom line is because her husband wasnt invited (for reasons that would take an hour to type out so lets just say that there are irreconcilable differences btwn us and we dont want him there) .

Things are not good with my sister at all right now. Her and I have been arguing because she likes to sweep things under the rug and Im not about that at all .. I cant be phony the way she can. She hasnt had my back with any issues Ive had throughout the wedding and frankly she sukcs.

Sooo... she backs out of the bach party (after I threw her two of them) and shes liek well we can just have a girls night out in AC then. I said no thanks. Shes like 'why not, okay then a night in NYC' .. Im like no thanks.. shes all 'why why whyy' I said look, Im two months away from the wedding. Im super busy and we all agreed this was the w/e of the bparty. You cant make it thats fine but I dont have time to do a night away in AC or anywhere. My weekends are really booked.

Shes like okay.

HERES THE ISSUE --

She fukcing emailed my FSIL!!!!! asking her about an AC trip!!!! W TF .. I just finished telling her no and she goes to my future sister in law!?!??!


I cant take this BS ... I want to be donnneeee...

OMG, so sorry you are dealing with this!!!
Sounds like she emailed your FSIL so that in the end, she doesn't look like the bad guy for backing out of your bachelorette party! She prob thinks people will look at that and say 'aw poor sister, couldn't make the party...but hey isn't it sweet she wants to do another?!?!'. Just my take on it...I have friends like that!

Hang in there!!!

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Posted by lbkate

OMG, so sorry you are dealing with this!!!
Sounds like she emailed your FSIL so that in the end, she doesn't look like the bad guy for backing out of your bachelorette party! She prob thinks people will look at that and say 'aw poor sister, couldn't make the party...but hey isn't it sweet she wants to do another?!?!'. Just my take on it...I have friends like that!

Hang in there!!!

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Thats exactly what it is .. GUILT and she still wants to look like 'heyyy Im trying here but she doesnt want it' I already said NO .. why are you emailing my FSIL .. So ridiculous!

Thanks

I can understand her not going if all of the pther people going are bringing their significant others...however, I don't know the background situation....
Besides, if she said she was going in the first place, she shouldn't have backed out! If it wasn't a problem then, it shouldn't be now!

If you pay me, I will randomly ring her doorbell and slap her when she answers it! Then, of course, I will run like the wind.

jk...I'll do it for free for you

Seriously, sorry you're dealing with that crap!

ummmmm can i go to oc w/you guys

Considering how cool your FH is, I'm going to guess your FSIL is similar. Are you close with her? Does she know all about your issues with your sis?

If she's smart and wants to respect your feelings, she'll tell your sis something like: I spoke to Carey and she doesn't want to go to AC. Her weekends are packed and I honestly think it would be too much of a hassle rather than any kind of fun. Maybe after the wedding, we can think of a girls trip, but as of now, I think it's a terrible idea.

That ought to get your sister's goat!

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Posted by latinaj

ummmmm can i go to oc w/you guys

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YESSS!!!!!

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Posted by Becca2010

Considering how cool your FH is, I'm going to guess your FSIL is similar. Are you close with her? Does she know all about your issues with your sis?

If she's smart and wants to respect your feelings, she'll tell your sis something like: I spoke to Carey and she doesn't want to go to AC. Her weekends are packed and I honestly think it would be too much of a hassle rather than any kind of fun. Maybe after the wedding, we can think of a girls trip, but as of now, I think it's a terrible idea.

That ought to get your sister's goat!

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Yes - FSIL is AWESOME - her and i are really close she knows everything.. Im going to tell her to send her something back like that! Awesome thanks

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Posted by MrsSx2

If you pay me, I will randomly ring her doorbell and slap her when she answers it! Then, of course, I will run like the wind.

jk...I'll do it for free for you

Seriously, sorry you're dealing with that crap!

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if you want one night we can compare bych & moan stories of siblings.

take one day at a time. she wont change. so now you need to learn to be the bigger person and realize who she is and deal with it

it stinks when you think 'but i cant believe myyy sister did....'

it stinks, but you have to try (for your own personal sanity in the future) to remove yourself from the sibling aspect of the situation

sorry if im blunt about this. and i still get upset sometimes with my sis, but it took me many years and many cries to 'harden' up. we have a very different relationship now - its actually better! - but we are not like super buddy buddy bff. ya know what i mean

anyway, im really sorry. i hope you can learn to laugh about it

can i ask - when did your relationship become weird? was it w the hubby?

JUST tell your FSIL that this not happening! I feel angry for you. This is ludacris... who is she to do that?

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Posted by little j

if you want one night we can compare bych & moan stories of siblings.

take one day at a time. she wont change. so now you need to learn to be the bigger person and realize who she is and deal with it

it stinks when you think 'but i cant believe myyy sister did....'

it stinks, but you have to try (for your own personal sanity in the future) to remove yourself from the sibling aspect of the situation

sorry if im blunt about this. and i still get upset sometimes with my sis, but it took me many years and many cries to 'harden' up. we have a very different relationship now - its actually better! - but we are not like super buddy buddy bff. ya know what i mean

anyway, im really sorry. i hope you can learn to laugh about it

can i ask - when did your relationship become weird? was it w the hubby?

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I LOVE the bluntness - dont ever hold back

her and I were always very close but she was always a flirt. Thats fine but it wasnt when I met Bryan. She would purposely do things like have her boobs WAY OUt so inappropriate and CONSTANTLY call attention to them. WEIRD and GROSS.. and honestly embarrassing for her when Bryan realized what the deal was and just was soo digusted by that. So there was that which I never said anything (except about her breastfeeding her son in front of him, UM NO THANKS)

Her husband is a rude obnoxious person who judges everything and just makes you feel SO uncomfortable whenever youre around him. Example, we all went to their house and he was working in the office. Never came out to say hello (whatever) but he did come out as we were watching TV and walked over to the TV says nothing to us, just lowers the volume and walks right back inside. GROSS. and theres a TON of examples like that one.

She kept asking me to hang out for our birthday and I never wanted to - I dont like hanging out with them. Its just not fun - between her boobs being shoved in everyones face and his attitude - who wants to be around that ..

Then her and I had an argument because she made her SIL (who she calls cutn every day) the godmother of her first born. I got offended that she didnt even think to talk to me first about it .. When I confronted her she spewed off the most rehearsed BS about me not believing in religion. I said yeah thats fine but this isnt about the religion aspect its about the fact that you and I are twin sisters and you didnt even talk to me. I know that decision was her husbands and she was fine with it. And Im fine not being the godmother - I have very strong feelings about religion so it wasnt the choice it was her attitude about me trying to talk to her about it.

Theres SOOO much - I can write a book. My cousin who was a BM had 6 months! to get her measurements .. She never did it and then backed out of the wedding and my sister thinks IM WRONG!?!?! She said I shouldve given her more time .. I gave her SIX MONTHS! I pushed the deadline back TWICE for her! But my sister NEVER has my back with anything ..

Our relationship SUKCS now.

Sorry so long - I never know when to stop when it comes to my fukced up family!

OMG girl, are you sure you and I don't have the same sisters???

I know it's tough because I had total drama with my sister but just remember its your day and your b-party so do what you want! And if she wants to be a part of it she has to go with the flow!

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Posted by elp6421

OMG girl, are you sure you and I don't have the same sisters???

I know it's tough because I had total drama with my sister but just remember its your day and your b-party so do what you want! And if she wants to be a part of it she has to go with the flow!

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Maybe they are related and you and I were separated. HAHAHA

dont worry chica. you are starting a new, wonderful family now! thats how you should look at it.

one thing that i often think which gets me thru arguments is this:

if she wasnt my sis, i wouldnt even be her friend

i know it sounds wrong and weird, but it helps me to put things in perspective sometimes.

(i know the above sounds mean, so i probably will delete later. i already know i have one lurker (hi there!))