So my mom makes this comment about my shower and how she has saved all the emails that have been going back and forth from her and all the bms, so after my shower i can read them, so what do i do i start asking the girls just random questions about my shower,so can you believe that my 2 moh are the ones being a pain, one even made a comment not knowing that my mother was cc on the email, and says well isnt the mother of the bride supose to pay for the showers, as if my mother was not paying for the majority of the shower she was so upset she told everyone to forget it and she would pay for everthing and they can do what they want. I also heard that these same girls are the ones now giving everyone a hard time about everthing.
I am so mad and want to say somthing but im not supose to know about any of this
tricia3381
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i'm sorry but ur allowed to say something. i would wait till after the shower though. Try not to be attacking although i would be pretty mad if someone treated my mom like that. but any ways just explain to them that this is UR wedding and what matters is if ur happy. If they're not happy then they need to get over it or step down. Its not right what they said to/about ur mom.
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Posted by destini458
So my mom makes this comment about my shower and how she has saved all the emails that have been going back and forth from her and all the bms, so after my shower i can read them, so what do i do i start asking the girls just random questions about my shower,so can you believe that my 2 moh are the ones being a pain, one even made a comment not knowing that my mother was cc on the email, and says well isnt the mother of the bride supose to pay for the showers, as if my mother was not paying for the majority of the shower she was so upset she told everyone to forget it and she would pay for everthing and they can do what they want. I also heard that these same girls are the ones now giving everyone a hard time about everthing.
I am so mad and want to say somthing but im not supose to know about any of this
you and i can go after our BMs together.. FM me if you want horror stories!! we can chit chat.. as of now, i'm ready to not speak to my SISTERS anymore after this fiasco
Captsarkasm
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wow.....I'm sorry your MOHs are giving your mom a hard time....it sounds like she's really being generous too....maybe one of the other girls can talk to your MOHs??
snydl40
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I would say that you were on your mom's computer and found these e-mails. I would definetly say something. I can't believe the are giving your mom a problem.
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I am going through the same thing with my BM I totally unserstand, my MIL and Mom keep telling me they are both having a difficult time from my MOH and 1 BM. I completely understand.
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I am totally going throught the same thing!! I can't say a damn thing...My Mom tells me enough. She can't say too much because she may spoil things, but knowing this much makes me wonder if they are truly my friends! I am definitely saying something after the Shower and definitely before the wedding! I am sick and tired of doing nice things for people and get SH!t on all the time!! Anyway, I really think you should say something after it is over, let it all out girl!! That's your MOM!!
Future Mrs.
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I would DEFINITELY say something. It sounds like your Mom is being extremely generous, and she must feel AWFUL right now. I don't like that. Your mother is your mother. If it were me (this is just my opinion though), I would confront the MOHs (very calmly.....not angry b/c then they'll get defensive.), confront them about it, and tell them you are sorry they feel this way, and since it is such a terrific obligation for them, you would like to relieve them of their duties. If it were me, I would not want anyone in my wedding who was jealous/angry/not wanting to do so and CERTAINLY NOT SOMEONE who said something disparaging about my family. (but that is only my opinion and I am often accused of over reacting)
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I would be tempted to say something too! Though the shocker may be that she already knows...someone knows your mom was cc on the email so she may be in the loop that you mom received it. Try not to let them get to you-its as if weddings bring out the worst in the people you dont expect it from and the best from the same
destini458
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thanks everyone for the posts, i am going to wait till after the shower and read the emails, i kinda talk to my mother, she gave more then she should in the info dept but not all, so i am going to see and will then decide how and what to say to the mohs thanks so much and i will let you know how it goes
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I am so sorry to hear that. MOH's are suppose to be the most helpful and go out of their way to make this time as easy on you as possible, not the complete opposite. It's jelaousy!! I think something should definately be said, mb one of the BM's can say ya know this has gone far enough your turning a happy time into chaos!
